Thursday, 13 August 2020

5 Mindful Habits to Fight Bias Every Day

If you’re determined to take a real stand against anti-Black racism, there’s plenty of work to be done. Some of that work might start with recognizing that we all have internalized prejudice. And this can perpetuate racist behavior—from the individual level of microaggressions, all the way to ingrained systemic problems, like police brutality and opportunity hoarding.

Don’t be discouraged. The science of implicit biases helps us to understand why this is, and how we can harness mindfulness to help us show up for the work of anti-racism, even when it’s difficult.

Why We’re Biased

Implicit or “unconscious” biases are automatic, internal processes that associate certain characteristics with members of a specific social group. A significant body of research demonstrates that all people have biases, and that our biases unconsciously influence behavior.

This doesn’t mean that unconscious bias is always maladaptive. For example, unconscious biases that activate feelings of love and care toward friends enable us to be kind without consciously trying. But many of our biases are far more harmful. We learn what we are exposed to, and the culture most of us grew up in is quite literally built upon racism, as well as a host of other unjust prejudices.

Understanding Debiasing

A growing body of evidence suggests unconscious biases are so deeply internalized that gaining awareness of them isn’t always enough to make them disappear.

But that doesn’t mean we’re doomed to keep acting out learned biases that go against our deeply held convictions. When I talk about debiasing, I do not mean immediately getting rid of all our unconscious biases. Rather, I mean learning to stop the behaviors that unconscious biases can cause.

 A common feature of the more successful Unconscious Bias Training (UBT), or debiasing, programs is that they focus on developing positive ways of interacting—instead of shaming participants about negative ways of interacting, which can backfire by reinforcing stereotypes. It’s more effective to offer tools for recognizing one’s own biases, allowing us to reflect and change our oppressive behaviors. One 2012 study, for example, analyzed an effective habit-training intervention in which non-Black participants were taught to cultivate awareness of biases and concern about their impact. Participants were then given tools to develop less biased habits. The intervention also emphasized seeking out opportunities to learn from Black individuals and from Black media and discourse, to develop more accurate viewpoints. The intervention taught the participants a heightened awareness of their biases and greater concern for discrimination in society.

When we tap in to our attentional habits, over time, we can more accurately perceive where our biases lie and can thus prevent harmful actions stemming from them.

Another vital aspect of habit-based debiasing interventions is that they call for applying the bias-fighting techniques across all life contexts. Programs exclusively targeting workplace bias, while well-intentioned, are problematic by design. The importance of combating unconscious racism persists even in private spaces. Simply debiasing during workshops or work hours is psychologically and ethically insufficient: We also need to build the habits of debiasing on our own time.

When we tap in to our attentional habits, over time, we can more accurately perceive where our biases lie and can thus prevent harmful actions stemming from them. Mindfulness can also help us in developing mindsets, skills, and practices that steadily chip away at our biases.

Debiasing 101

If the functional goals of debiasing were broken down into two steps, it would be these:

  1. Recognize the bias through noticing our cues or triggers for prejudiced thoughts.
  2. Act in an unbiased way, replacing biased behaviors.

These two steps may appear simple enough, but in real time, recognizing our biases, shifting out of automatic pilot, and creating new habits can be challenging. (Think about if someone in your office casually tells an offensive joke, which makes others laugh. In that moment, are you able to make the snap decision not to laugh it off, much less explain calmly to your coworker why their joke isn’t funny?)

Debiasing practice is particularly complex because it must be tailored to the individual in order to be effective. We do not all communicate respect and compassion in the same way. Additionally, we all have different exposure to harmful stereotypes and individualized contexts in which prejudices manifest. 

Like debiasing, mindfulness entails extended commitment to inward reflection and dedicated practice. It asks us to suspend our judgmental tendencies, allowing our inner curiosity to spark a sense of warmth and kindness that influences how we treat both ourselves and each other. 

So, the third crucial step is to practice. We can practice the attentional and emotional management skills involved in recognizing environmental cues, as well as the social wherewithal and cultural competency to respond without negative bias. When unconsciously biased behavior is framed as a habit, it becomes evident that debiasing practice is a new habit, and a long-term commitment. Debiasing asks that we consciously stay motivated by compassion, aware of our emotional terrain, and attentive to biases that we may not usually notice. 

All of this points to how mindfulness can help us immensely in our anti-racist practice. Like debiasing, mindfulness entails extended commitment to inward reflection and dedicated practice. It asks us to suspend our judgmental tendencies, allowing our inner curiosity to spark a sense of warmth and kindness that influences how we treat both ourselves and each other. 

Research has found that mindfulness meditation can be effective in reducing negative bias activation and the behaviors that stem from it. I’ve collected this non-exhaustive list of the major ways we can connect mindfulness with our personal work of anti-racism.

Five Mindful Habits to Cultivate in Debiasing Practice

1. Emotional Awareness

UBT can bring up unpleasant feelings that are typically repressed for fear of disliking what we see. Though natural, this defense mechanism is quite dangerous. Research indicates that mindfulness can support efforts to gain awareness of negative emotions, like those entangled with white fragility, spurred by unconscious biases. When being mindful, one can recognize pangs of judgment, apathy, or fear, and use them as an alert to scan for biased thoughts and impulses across contexts.

2. Decentering from Negative Thought Patterns

A powerful intention in mindfulness practice is to be able to take a step back from our passing thoughts and emotions, instead of assuming that they are true or that they define us. Research on rumination in depression patients reveals that decentering can be highly effective for combating negative self-referencing thoughts. This illustrates the principle that recognizing thoughts and feelings do not always reflect reality strips them of some of their power. When it comes to biased thoughts, self-reflection is much easier when we embrace the idea that our thoughts about ourselves and others are temporary and open to re-examination.

3. Loving-Kindness

Loving-Kindness Meditation can target some of the psychological mechanisms involved in perpetuating unconscious biases. When negative emotions come from learned stereotypes, they can elicit moral intuitions and gut feelings that are not, upon reflection, in line with our deeper dedication to fairness and equity. As just one example, a 2014 study demonstrated that loving-kindness practices can significantly reduce unconscious bias toward people in marginalized social groups. A primary mechanism the meditation targets is general feelings of connectedness, which make biases less apt to activate. 

4. Mindful Media Consumption

As an extension of mindful action, the media we choose to consume can help to combat unconscious bias, while facilitating the cultivation of greater understanding and respect for those facing oppression. Results of the 2012 study mentioned earlier suggest that rather than neglecting, oppressing, or appropriating the products of Black culture, we must tune in to the variety of perspectives they offer. View television and film created by Black people, listen to interviews and podcasts with Black hosts and/or guests, and read literature by Black authors. 

5. Mindful Listening and Speech

If you are motivated to use your voice to combat bias, so much the better—but we need to be conscientious that we are supporting, not distracting. In both debiasing and anti-racist work, practicing deep listening is crucial. Not only is it respectful, it helps to prevent us from (even accidentally) distorting the words and messages of Black people when we work to amplify their voices. 

Notably, all of these can be pursued alone, or together with non-Black friends and family—but it should not be Black people’s burden to educate folks who do not experience anti-Black racism. 

Mindfulness can help us to act with more intentionality in general. White people should be mindful not to contribute to “white noise,” which is unproductive content that takes attention away from more important messages. And when we err, we must practice humility and willingness to adapt our views and behavior. 

Unconscious bias is just one cog in the massive mechanism of white supremacy. As Jenée Johnson, program innovator of mindfulness, trauma and racial equity reminds us, “Compassion comes from owning that and sitting with the discomfort of that, so we can then generate something different.” The practice of debiasing, supported and deepened by mindfulness practice, can help us apply knowledge about institutionalized racism in order to work toward equity, both in our institutions and our personal practices. Recognizing prejudice in ourselves can be painful and upsetting, but mindfulness offers us tools for holding ourselves accountable and moving forward to continue combating our own bias with patience and compassion.

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Daily Practices

Using Mindfulness to Break Racial Bias 

Anu Gupta, founder and CEO of BE MORE with Anu, offers five portable compassion-based tools to face and transform racial bias at work and in day-to-day life. Read More 

  • Anu Gupta
  • July 2, 2020
Voices

A Conversation on Mindfulness, Bias and Racial Justice 

It’s difficult to have a conversation about racism, privilege and fragility without things getting heated. In this Point of View Podcast, experts weigh in on the role mindfulness plays in understanding and navigating racial justice. Read More 

  • Mindful Staff
  • October 15, 2019

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Meditation: Cultivating an Intimate Presence (24:24 min.)


This guided meditation cultivates a relaxed, gentle presence with whatever expressions of life are arising in the moment. We begin by releasing and opening through the body, and then include all sensations, feelings and sounds in an intimate, allowing presence.

Feeling the aliveness and space in the heart region. Noticing and allowing life to be just as it is but with an intimate attention. …
Centering the movement of the breath in the foreground and also aware in the background of an alert inner stillness, the light of awareness, that which is aware, that presence which is our own awakening spirit. …
Bowing to and offering care to the life that’s right here. Bringing that same respect and tender heartedness to your world. Feeling the world in your heart. Offering whatever prayer resonates as we close this meditation.

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Wednesday, 12 August 2020

What is the Best Mindfulness Practice for Your Myers-Briggs Personality?

I’m an MBTI junky—which means I see the world through the mental lens of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) and how our behavior is influenced by our MBTI type.

When I was trying to get back into meditating a few years ago, I read Dan Harris’s book, 10% Happier. His approach to how and why he meditates made so much sense to me. It motivated me to get back to meditating in a way that no other meditation book had. And it made my MBTI mindset start thinking about applying type to meditation. What if I could help people connect with a mindfulness or meditation practice better because it resonated with their MBTI type? Maybe that would help people to stay with the practice long enough to create a habit and reap the benefits of mindfulness and meditation.

What is MBTI?

It’s a personality type assessment based on psychologist Carl Jung’s personality theories and adapted by Isabel Briggs Myers and her mother, Katharine Briggs. It is a widely recognized tool for:

  • Personal self-awareness
  • Career exploration
  • Partners to understand each other better
  • Teams to improve communication and collaboration
  • Managers to incorporate into their supervisory styles

The test is popular among seekers, leadership and development professionals, and HR directors, and can provide helpful insights in our personality quirks, though it should be noted the science around the reliability of the test is open to question. That said, it can be an awful lot of fun to take the test and see where you land. And while certain types of meditation have been found to resonate with certain MBTI types, there is no hard and fast matching of type to specific mindfulness or meditation techniques. People are drawn to types of mindfulness and meditation for numerous reasons beyond temperament, including first exposure, the appeal of meditation teacher, what’s in vogue at the time, what they’ve discovered in their own sampling of meditation techniques, and what they’ve found that works for them. 

What is Mindfulness and Meditation?

It’s striving to be in the present moment and build awareness about your emotions, physical sensations, and thoughts as well as the surrounding environment. It’s about training yourself to focus on the here and now without judgment. The more mindful you are, the more you can:

  • Make choices about how you want to respond versus react.
  • Choose where you want to put your attention and energy.
  • Notice your reactionary patterns and explore why.
  • Be able to slow down and relax more.
  • Be more present in your experiences and conversations with others.

Mindfulness practices or activities can take many forms (i.e. yoga, tai chi, painting, listening, or walking), but they all allow you to practice being in the present moment and focus on the activity at hand.

Meditation is a specific form of mindfulness, and within meditation there are many different forms—transcendental, Zen, loving-kindness, and mindfulness to name a few.

Linking MBTI, Mindfulness, and Meditation

MBTI types gravitate to different activities based on their type preference. There are four scales, or dichotomies, in the MBTI model. Let’s examine each scale and its implications for mindfulness practices.

Extroversion and Introversion

Where do you put your attention and get your energy? Do you like to spend time in the outer world of people and things (Extroversion), or in your inner world of ideas and images (Introversion)? This scale is represented by the letters E and I.

  • Extroverts (or Es) get energized by being with people. So, if you’re an E, you may do well with group activities like meditation or yoga.
  • If you’re an introvert (or I), you may prefer having a solitary daily meditation practice or mindfulness practice that you can do solo like journaling or mindful walking.

Sensing and Intuition

Do you pay more attention to information that comes in through your five senses (Sensing), or do you pay more attention to the patterns and possibilities that you see in the information you receive (Intuition)? This scale is represented by the letters S and N.

  • Sensors (or Ss) have a natural preference toward the five senses. If you’re an S, you may enjoy a practice that is tactile or kinesthetic, like tai chi, drumming, body scan, or yoga.
  • Intuitives (or Ns) like to understand concepts or theories. If you’re an N, really understanding how a mindfulness practice can impact the body or mind would probably help you “get on board.” Ns also enjoy patterns or themes or abstract concepts so a practice like candle gazing or chanting may appeal.

Thinking and Feeling

Thinking and feeling which describes how you like to make decisions. Do you like to put more weight on objective principles and impersonal facts (Thinking), or do you put more weight on the personal impact and the people involved (Feeling) of a decision? This scale is represented by the letters T and F.

  • Thinkers (Ts) want to know about the benefits of a mindfulness practice through research and case studies. The science-based practice of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) may appeal to Ts.
  • Feelers (Fs) may be influenced by a practice that speaks to their values, say of health, well-being, or longevity. If you’re an F, try a loving-kindness meditation practice to send positive feelings to others. “Daily gratitudes” where you recall what you are grateful for each day is another practice that would appeal to Fs.

Judging and Perceiving

Judging and perceiving, describes how you like to live your outer life or your lifestyle. Do you prefer a more structured and planful lifestyle (Judging) or a more flexible and spontaneous lifestyle (Perceiving)? This scale is represented by the letters J and P.

  • Judgers (Js) will want to schedule in their practice. If you’re a J, you may find an app that allows you to check off each day’s efforts appealing.
  • Perceivers (Ps) want to learn about a practice that isn’t going to make them commit to a schedule. If you’re a P, you may find mindfulness meditation that focuses on anchoring in the moment through your senses just the thing for tapping into mindfulness when the mood strikes.

Think of these as suggestions, rather than prescriptions. Ultimately, the right mindfulness practice for you is the one you will stay with—so try them all until you find the one that resonates for you.

If you don’t already know your MBTI type, you can take the assessment through The Myers-Briggs Company.

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Tuesday, 11 August 2020

Mindful Live—A Series of Online Conversations

We’re bringing our content to life with Mindful Live—a new series of online conversations and events featuring many of the writers and subjects of the stories you’ll find in the pages of Mindful magazine.

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Mindful Live with Sharon Salzberg and Barry Boyce

Our first session featured Sharon Salzberg and Founding Editor Barry Boyce. They shared their favorite practices, deep insights, and inspiration on how to use mindfulness to open our hearts and find compassion.

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Mindful Live Q&A with Sharon Salzberg and Barry Boyce

Questions About Mindful Live

Will this Mindful Live session be available to watch again? 

Yes, you can watch the Mindful Live session with Sharon Salzberg and Barry Boyce for a limited time here.

How can I stay up-to-date on upcoming Mindful Live events? 

Sign up for our newsletter to stay in the loop about Mindful Live events. You can also follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter for reminders and updates.

How can I learn more about loving-kindness meditation?

Find resources, guided meditations, and more at mindful.org. Or, join us to discover the power of loving-kindness in our new course Loving-Kindness Meditation with Sharon Salzberg.

Further Reading From Sharon Salzberg

Can you list the book you’re discussing? 

You can read an excerpt from Sharon’s new book, Real Change: The Transformative Power of Loving-Kindness in the loving-kindness issue of Mindful magazine.

Enter for your chance to win a free copy of Real Change: The Transformative Power of Loving-Kindness. 

How do you personally practice patience, kindness, tolerance, and unconditional love for yourself before doing so for all others?

Loving-kindness is so much more than “just” a feel-good practice. It is the force that can connect, inspire, and motivate us to transform the world. In the loving-kindness issue of Mindful magazine, founding editor Barry Boyce talks with Sharon Salzberg about attention, resilience, anger, and the need to be kinder to ourselves and the world. Read the full conversation: Meditation Teacher Sharon Salzberg Talks About the Power of Loving-Kindness.

If one is struggling to connect emotionally to the object of our loving-kindness meditation, is it acceptable to fake it until you make it?

In a Q&A from the Fall issue, Sharon talks about the first time she followed a loving-kindness practice. She reveals that we don’t have to make anything happen while practicing. With time, you’ll notice its benefits. 

“Many times, practicing loving-kindness will be very very ordinary, very dry or very mechanical—but it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t mean that nothing is happening or that it’s not working. What’s important is to do it, is to form that intention in the mind because we’re uniting the power of loving-kindness and the power of intention and that is what will produce the effect of that free flow of loving-kindness,” Sharon writes.

How do I offer loving-kindness to estranged family members?

Why Loving-Kindness Takes Time: “It’s a very powerful place because that person, in some ways, symbolizes the difference between love or loving-kindness, which is conditional, and that which is on uncondition that which goes beyond having our desires met, having affection returned, having people treat us well. It is that person that defines the line between that which is finite and that which is infinite. Yet it’s not easy. Very often to think of this person and you enmity, or anger, or fear, whatever. As a suggestion, when we begin that part of the practice, in the spirit of doing it in the easiest way possible, it’s probably better to start with somebody where there’s mild irritation rather than the person who has hurt you most in your life.

And slowly begin to open in levels of difficulty. Sometimes when we send loving-kindness to a difficult person, we do feel all of these other feelings, like anger. If possible, see if you can let go of it. Return the recitation of the phrases. If it’s too strong, then you can drop the loving-kindness. Pay careful attention to the feeling until it begins to subside some, very much with the sense of compassion for oneself: You don’t need to judge it. Now when you can you can pick up the loving-kindness again, perhaps with an easier person.” Sharon writes.

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4 Ways to Awaken Your Intention

Though I deeply appreciate how my mindfulness practice provides me with tremendous support in the midst of current challenges, it is specifically the questions around intention that have deepened that practice and enhanced my capacity to choose how I relate to this moment. What is my intention in these unprecedented times? And how does my practice help me orient in that direction?

As wise teachers have said, everything arises at the tip of intention. This has never been more evident to me than it is right now.

The reality is, I can do virtually nothing about much of what is unfolding.

What I can do is cultivate the ability, moment by moment, to choose how I relate to this experience. One element of consciously choosing how to relate and respond to the world means I’m frequently asking myself, again and again: How do I want to respond to these challenging times? What is my intention in the midst of it all, and how does my practice support me? Can I “let be” and relax with this level of uncertainty and how does my intention support me in doing just that?  

Can I cultivate self-compassion and compassion for others as we all navigate this uncharted territory? And can I begin again when I feel that I have strayed from my intention (which, if I am being totally honest, has certainly happened countless times)? The reminder here is that intention is pointing in a direction, it’s a north star, not a destination. If I am paying attention when I get off course, which will inevitably happen, I can always make a course correction.

When I see fear arising, instead of being hijacked by my fight, flight, and freeze reactivity, can I calm my nervous system and see the common suffering and relate to it, and to others, in a way that is consistent with a dedication to deepening kindness and compassion? Even if those “others” are exhibiting behavior that is making me feel threatened and concerned (dare I say, even if they are not socially distancing as I deem appropriate)? In choosing a compassionate response, I remember to feel my feet on the floor or take a few mindful breaths or even remind myself, with a hand on my heart, that I am doing all I can to keep myself and others healthy, safe and well.  

When the news is so sad that I just don’t think I can bear it, I remember to consciously and gently touch into the deep sadness with kindness, compassion, and equanimity.

When the news is so sad that I just don’t think I can bear it, I remember to consciously and gently touch into the deep sadness with kindness, compassion, and enough equanimity to hold it in my heart without getting lost in it. Can I attend skillfully to all the feelings as I work to navigate my days with more grace and ease, reminding myself that all feelings are welcome and to hold them with mindfulness and compassion? And can I let this support me as I try to make clear and conscious decisions about how to most effectively respond amid our societies’ racial issues, divisiveness, and pandemic pain?

Here are 4 steps to support working with intention:

1. Identifying intention:

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, inviting the body to soften and the mind to calm. Breathe in and out as if the breath were moving through the heart center, the center of the chest, with a gentle invitation to be receptive to whatever arises there. Begin to imagine and connect with your wisest self and ask “What is my deepest intention?” Know that a true, deep intention will feel light and open in the body and mind. This is not about goal setting and achievement. An intention is an ongoing direction in life not something to be “accomplished.” Examples may be living with more presence, being more compassionate, living in alignment with your values, or something else. 

Just sit with the question, even if no answer arises, as you gently incline the mind in this way. 

2. Setting intention:

Begin each day reminding yourself of your intention. Simply saying to yourself each morning before getting out of bed “May I be…” and add in your intention. Kindly pointing yourself in this direction with some clarity and conviction can help to cultivate the conditions for staying in touch with your intention as you move through the day.

3. Checking your course:

Periodically check in with yourself. In particular when you feel there is suffering you can ask yourself a few questions. What is happening now? How does this align with my intention? Or, especially in a tense or uncertain moment, how can I respond from my deepest intention? How may this moment, whatever it brings, serve to support my intention? 

To course check, we need to know what is happening in the moment and be present for our experience in a kind and receptive way. When intense feelings or challenging situations arise, be gentle with your self and name the feelings with some sense of allowing before asking yourself, “How can I respond from my deepest intention?”

4. Course-correcting as needed:

When you realize you have gotten off track—maybe you reacted in a way that wasn’t supportive of your intention—begin by practicing a bit of self-compassion. Remind yourself that this is hard, and just as others do, sometimes you will get blown off-course, and then offer yourself a gesture of kindness. End by checking in again to see if your intention still resonates and, if so, recommitting to it in a kind and gentle way. 

These questions and others serve as daily reminders to support my capacity to work with my feelings so I can see more clearly and have some choice in how to respond. And, if like me, you find intention helps to guide you with some meaning and clarity, you may consider how you want to navigate these uncertain and challenging times. What is your north star as you set your course through these stormy seas?

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Friday, 7 August 2020

Radical Love: Part 1 – Reflections that Awaken our Heart


Radical love arises from the purity of our awake awareness, and cuts through the delusion of being separate and not OK.  It comes from and brings out our intrinsic goodness. 

These talks explore the barriers to this embodied, inclusive and active loving, and include reflections that can help us to free our own hearts and bring true healing to our world.

I love everybody, I love everybody in my heart. And you can’t make me hate you. You can’t make me hate you in my heart. Because I have love in my heart, I am going to treat everybody right. ~ Ruby Sales

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi

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