Friday 30 June 2017

Mindful Movement to Ease into Sleep

If you’re one of the 80 million Americans having a hard time falling asleep, count yourself among the ranks of those more likely to suffer from diabetes, cardiovascular disease, obesity, and depression (As if being tired all the time wasn’t bad enough).

Recently there have been some studies looking into whether or not mindfulness, and other meditative movements like those found in yoga, tai chi, and qi gong, can improve sleep quality. According to one review of studies taking a few minutes to settle your mind and body before bed can help you fall asleep faster as well as help you get more restful sleep.

There’s still a need for more high-quality research. One review of 1,049 studies on meditative movement and sleep outcomes only found 14 studies worthy of being included in the review. Of those 14, the results showed that mindful movement interventions resulted in significantly better sleep quality.

While we wait for the research community to provide more definitive answers, it seems it’s definitely worth giving mindful movement a try if you have trouble sleeping.

In part three of our mindful movement series with Cara Bradley you can try a bedtime routine that stretches and relaxes areas of your body that tighten up during the day, such as low back, hip flexors, and upper back muscles, followed by a meditation to settle the mind.

Before you begin, get yourself ready for bed (because you’ll be sawing logs before you can say good night.)

Mindful Movement To Ease into Sleep


1) Cat/ Cow
This movement stretches your upper back and loosens tension down your spine. Place your hands on the ground beneath your shoulders and your knees on the ground beneath your hips, keep your back straight and your head forward. As you inhale gently drop your belly towards the floor, lift your chest and look forward arching your spine slightly. As you exhale bring your face towards your navel while doming your upper spine, rounding the top of your back. Repeat for 3-5 breaths.

2) Deep Lunge
From an all fours position, step your right foot forwards and slide your left knee further behind you. Place your hands on your knee. This deep lunge stretches the front of your hips, an area that gets tight after a day of sitting. Keep your hands on the floor or place on your front knee. Hold for 5 breaths. Switch sides.

3) Seated Neck Stretch
Have a seat and cross your legs if you can. Bring your right hand over your head and place it on your left ear. Gently drop your right ear towards your shoulder. Hold for 5 breaths. Bring your head back to center gently, switch sides, going easy on your neck with you switch.

4) Dynamic Bridge
Place your arms flat on the ground by your sides a few inches away from your body, with your palms facing down. Place both feet to the floor under your bent knees. Make sure your back is flat and your body feels centered and balanced. Then, as you inhale lift your hips up towards the ceiling, creating a straight line from your knees, down your thighs, to your chest. Interlock your fingers under your body and shimmy your shoulder blades towards each other to open your chest muscles. Hold for 8 deep breaths.

5) Knee to Chest into Twist
Stretch out your legs and slide them together. Pull your right knee into your chest clasping your fingers around your right shin and gently hug your knee in to stretch your low back and hips. Hold for 3 breaths. Release your knee and send it towards the left for a gentle spinal twist. Turn your gaze to the right. Hold for 3 breaths and switch sides.

Mindful Breathing to Ease into Sleep

For this meditation you’ll extend your exhale twice as long as your inhale as a way to settle your mind and nervous system before getting under the covers.

Let go of your day. Now that your body is more relaxed, stretch yourself out long on the floor. Separate your feet and position your hands with your palms facing upwards.

Notice your breath. Don’t change your breathing yet; just notice the subtle lifting and lowering around your belly as you breathe.

Extend Your Breath. Breathe so that your exhale is twice as long as your inhale. F example you could count to three on your inhale and six during your exhale. (If that feels uncomfortable, you can change it by counting 2 on your inhale and 4 on your exhale, etc.) The point isn’t to hyperventilate or pass out. You want the ratio to feel comfortable, so that you’ll stay with it. The counting will help you stay focused and relax your body at the same time.

  1. Breathe in slowly while counting to two.
  2. Pause for a count of one.
  3. Breathe out slowly while counting to four.
  4. Pause for a count of one.
  5. Once again, “Inhale, on, two, pause; exhale, one, two, three, four, pause.”
  6. Continue to breathe this way. At some point it will feel natural to let the counting go and to allow your mind to rest in the direct experience of breathing.
  7. Eventually let go and just breathe however feels normal to you.

After a few minutes open your eyes and notice how you feel. Slowly get up and crawl right into bed.

Good night!

 

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Part 1: Refuge in the Wilderness – Coming Home to Embodied Presence - Tara Brach


When we live from our mental control towers, we are in a trance that confines our life. These two talks look at the primary ways we are conditioned to leave embodied presence, and the consequence of unlived life—being cut off from our vitality, intelligence and compassion. We then explore the teachings and practices that guide us to reconnect to our senses, and the sacred presence that underlies all lived experience.

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The Mindful Survey: Technically Speaking

Of the following, which personal tech devices do you use on a daily basis:

  • illustration digital devicesMP3 Player 4%
  • Desktop Computer 37%
  • Tablet 38%
  • Laptop Computer 50%
  • TV 51%
  • Smartphone 91%

 

Of the following, what do you most often use a smartphone for:

  • Gaming 1%
  • Other 7%
  • Phone calls 12%
  • Social media 18%
  • Browsing the internet 19%
  • Texting 44%

What role does technology play in your life?

30% Say it’s crucial, while 26% say technology is a “necessary evil.” Another 21% admit it’s an impressive feat of human intelligence, 11% could take or leave it, 8% think it’s responsible for making us all more stupid, and 4% consider it a huge burden.

Have you ever experienced tech withdrawal?

graph illustration

What is your favorite thing about personal technology?

  • “Education.”
  • “Information at my fingertips.”
  • “Ability to keep in touch with family and friends overseas.”
  • “Google Maps.”
  • “Reading good books and long articles.”
  • “Distraction.”
  • “Podcasts.”
  • “It helps my creativity—I make music and art on it.”
  • “Turning it off.”
  • “Solves problems.”
  • “Saving time.”
  • “Social media.”
  • “The ease of getting things done.”
  • “Constant availability.”
  • “The ability to send a thought now.”

Do you consider yourself to be:

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  • A tech native 10%
  • Pretty competent with technology 72%
  • Befuddled by all these gadgets! 15%
  • Rather averse to technology 3%

When you have a question about a personal technology device, what do you do?

  • 51% Scour the web for a solution
  • 25% consult a family member
  • 20% say they can usually figure it out for themselves
  • and 4% will go to an IT person

Have you ever dropped your mobile phone in the toilet?

illustration phone going down toilet

What bugs you the most about personal technology?

  • “The time it takes to sort and delete email.”
  • “Keyboards.”
  • “Too many notifications.
  • “Technology could be genuinely helpful, but too many companies are fighting for our attention.”
  • “Invasion of privacy.”
  • “It interrupts actual personal connection.”
  • “Staring at a screen all the time.”
  • “Expectation of being available 24/7.”
  • “Upgrades.” “
  • “It’s so damn easy.”
  •  “Time suck.”
  • “Ads. Autoplay video content.”
  •  “The way it lures you away from present experience.”

If technology were your romantic partner, how would you describe your relationship?

  • “Ambivalent.”
  • “Seductive,emotionally volatile, supportive except when it’s not.”
  • “I call my wife’s phone her ‘boyfriend.’”
  • “Manipulative.” “
  • Unhealthy. Very unhealthy.”
  • “Controlling and addictive but something I can’t do without.”
  • “Reluctant partners.”
  • “Too submissive.”
  • “We don’t sleep together.”
  • “Friend with benefits.”
  • “Cozy.”
  • “I am tortured, but I can’t leave!”
  • “Draining.”
  • “We love and hate each other—both very tenderly.”
  •  “It’s there when I need it—and, unfortunately, when I don’t.”
  • “Tumultuous.”
  • “Unbalanced.”
  • “Joined at the hip.”
  • “Abusive!”
  • “Can’t get enough of each other.”
  • “Tempestuous. Exciting yet burdensome.”
  • “Toxic.”

Most popular answer:

It’s a love/hate relationship.

This article appeared in the August 2017 issue of Mindful magazine.

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Thursday 29 June 2017

Meditation: Opening to Full Aliveness - Tara Brach

Meditation: Opening to Full Aliveness (2017-06-28) –

This meditation includes relaxing and awakening through the body, widening the lens to include sound and then letting life live through us, receiving all that arises in open awareness.

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School’s Out for the Summer. Why Aren’t Teens More Chill?

Courage is not the absence of fear; rather, it is skillful action to live with the fear.
—Theo Koffler

School’s out for the summer. While students are taking a break, it’s still a time of transition: Whether middle school students are gearing up for high school, or high school seniors are preparing to enter into the adult world, each transition carries an element of uncertainty. Although changes like these can mark exciting times, they are often accompanied by feelings of apprehension and anxiety.

Uncertainty can bring feelings of distress and anxiety to the surface. When left unaddressed, these emotions can be detrimental to a young person’s life. Living in a constant state of anxiety can interfere with one’s ability to function effectively, making it impossible to self-soothe or challenge oneself. As adults, it’s all too easy for us to be dismissive, but whether these fears seem logical or real is truly beside the point. As adults in the lives of young people, we play a critical role: we help them navigate uncertain terrain and support them through transitional times. This does not mean eradicating fear. Rather, it’s about helping young people accept that fear and anxiety are normal and with the right tools, fears can managed and worked through. The truth is: everyone gets scared and we all feel anxiety, but it’s what you do with that fear that has the potential to make all the difference!

Unfortunately, fear is not relegated to a specific time of year, it’s ongoing and ever present. We live in a world that makes it difficult to escape fear-inducing conditions. In many cases it is our own self-limiting thought patterns that create anxiety. Maintaining cultural biases, viewing the world through an “us versus them” paradigm, holding onto anger, constantly sitting in judgment and nurturing hatred—all of these patterns set the stage for storms of inner and outer turmoil. As these qualities ripple through society, fear escalates and prevents us from dealing with the real issues at play. What if I’m not good enough? What if he hates me? What if I can’t do it? What if I don’t make friends? These insecurities are natural, but neglecting to acknowledge and deal with them allows them to burrow into our minds, stunt personal growth, and impede our day-to-day lives.

Fear is a primal, basic, human emotion. Often, the idea of fear is more anxiety-provoking than the actual situation. Fear of self, fear of others, fear of space—it all boils down to one thing: uncertainty or fear of the unknown. No matter where you focus your anxiety, it’s important to recognize it and see it for what it is: a normal human emotion. It is only after you take this step that you can actually deal with the situation at hand.

Teens have the difficult task of simultaneously navigating the social scene while still figuring out who they are and what they want on a personal level.

When it comes to teens, the fears are wide ranging. Some fear failure, others fear the future, and many fret over what might happen due to past actions. Teens have the difficult task of simultaneously navigating the social scene while still figuring out who they are and what they want on a personal level. This imbalance leads to an array of common, very age-appropriate, anxieties. How can I go to that party if everyone is judging me? What if no one asks me to the dance? It’s not cool to like math. For some teens these fears become debilitating and prevent them from engaging with others. According to Martin Covington, Senior Research Psychologist at the Institute for Personality and Social Psychology at UC-Berkeley, a fear of failure is directly linked to one’s self-worth, or the belief that you are valuable as a person. As adults, it is up to us to encourage young people to explore these innermost feelings, acknowledge the ways in which fear may be holding them back, and set an intention to keep approaching the fear, each time it arises. Again, this isn’t about eradicating anxiety. Some of us never overcome our fears, and that’s OK too. It’s about harnessing learning strategies rather than allowing fear to stop us in our tracks.

5 Ways to Help Teens Work with Fear

  1. Name it to tame it! Have a discussion with your teen and ask what fears are occupying their minds. Really listen, without judgment, to their perspectives. Your demonstration of understanding and support will go a long way toward creating trust. Don’t be deterred if, initially, these conversations are met with a strong reaction, as often times fear can cause defensiveness or trigger vulnerability that can cause a teen to “shut down.”

 

  1. Discuss how fear works. It’s helpful for a teenager to understand the mind/body connection and the mechanism behind fear. You can share the fact that when fear sets in, the heart races, the brain releases cortisol, and the body experiences fright, flight and freeze. These are very normal reactions. Part of the conversation is to help teens recognize that when experiencing fear (real or imagined), the mind is clouded by stress and judgment gets clouded. It’s about having a strategy in place when fear does arise can be helpful to regain composure.

 

    1. Take 5 mindful breaths. When adrenaline kicks in, and feelings of fear arise, suggest taking five intentional breaths. The idea is to engage a breathing practice like TAKE FIVE to help put the brakes on fear, hyperactivity and reactivity. A breathing practice creates a short enough pause to engage the parasympathetic nervous system and slow things down. Having a strategy like a short breathing practice that your teen can tap into as a resource can help them navigate moments of anxiety.

  1. Meet fear with acceptance. Fear is a fact of life: The key is acknowledgement. The idea is to share your fears with your teens so that they can cultivate a quality of acceptance that fear is part of our common humanity. When they learn to acknowledge their fears, they can use this information to help them communicate, manage, and grow. Over time, building a better understanding around anxiety and/or unpleasant experiences can support them in taking “baby steps” to navigate through the fear.

 

  1. Reinforce their goodness. Young people need to understand the power of thoughts and feelings. We can get lost in self-limiting thoughts with complete disregard for our positive qualities. Help put things in perspective by sharing strengths, weaknesses, and wins. It’s constantly focusing on the negative and being mired in ruminative thought loops that holds us back. Mindfulness helps us build an awareness of these thought patterns, and with practice, we can create a different (and healthier) relationship to our minds. Learn from Dr. Dan Siegel and read Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain. Siegel explores exciting ways in which understanding how the brain functions can improve the lives of adolescents, making their relationships more fulfilling and less lonely and distressing on both sides of the generational divide.

If we can help teens understand that they are not alone or defective, we can support them to move them from feelings of isolation to feelings of acceptance. Fear is here to stay—it’s our thoughts around it and our relationship to it that must change.

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Wednesday 28 June 2017

How Gratitude Changes You and Your Brain

With the rise of managed health care, which emphasizes cost-efficiency and brevity, mental health professionals have had to confront this burning question: How can they help clients derive the greatest possible benefit from treatment in the shortest amount of time?

Recent evidence suggests that a promising approach is to complement psychological counseling with additional activities that are not too taxing for clients but yield high results. In our own research, we have zeroed in on one such activity: the practice of gratitude. Indeed, many studies over the past decade have found that people who consciously count their blessings tend to be happier and less depressed.

We set out to address these questions in a recent research study involving nearly 300 adults, mostly college students, who were seeking mental health counseling at a university. We recruited these participants just before they began their first session of counseling, and, on average, they reported clinically low levels of mental health at the time. The majority of people seeking counseling services at this university in general struggled with issues related to depression and anxiety. The problem is that most research studies on gratitude have been conducted with college students or other well-functioning people. Is gratitude beneficial for people who struggle with mental health concerns? And, if so, how?

Is gratitude beneficial for people who struggle with mental health concerns? And, if so, how?

We randomly assigned our study participants into three groups. Although all three groups received counseling services, the first group was also instructed to write one letter of gratitude to another person each week for three weeks, whereas the second group was asked to write about their deepest thoughts and feelings about negative experiences. The third group did not do any writing activity.

What did we find? Compared with the participants who wrote about negative experiences or only received counseling, those who wrote gratitude letters reported significantly better mental health four weeks and 12 weeks after their writing exercise ended. This suggests that gratitude writing can be beneficial not just for healthy, well-adjusted individuals, but also for those who struggle with mental health concerns. In fact, it seems, practicing gratitude on top of receiving psychological counseling carries greater benefits than counseling alone, even when that gratitude practice is brief.

And that’s not all. When we dug deeper into our results, we found indications of how gratitude might actually work on our minds and bodies. While not definitive, here are four insights from our research suggesting what might be behind gratitude’s psychological benefits.

1. Gratitude unshackles us from toxic emotions

First, by analyzing the words used by participants in each of the two writing groups, we were able to understand the mechanisms behind the mental health benefits of gratitude letter writing. We compared the percentage of positive emotion words, negative emotion words, and “we” words (first-person plural words) that participants used in their writing. Not surprisingly, those in the gratitude writing group used a higher percentage of positive emotion words and “we” words, and a lower proportion of negative emotion words, than those in the other writing group.

It was the lack of negative emotion words—not the abundance of positive words—that explained the mental health gap between the gratitude writing group and the other writing group.

However, people who used more positive emotion words and more “we” words in their gratitude letters didn’t necessarily have better mental health later. It was only when people used fewer negative emotion words in their letters that they were significantly more likely to report better mental health. In fact, it was the lack of negative emotion words—not the abundance of positive words—that explained the mental health gap between the gratitude writing group and the other writing group.

Perhaps this suggests that gratitude letter writing produces better mental health by shifting one’s attention away from toxic emotions, such as resentment and envy. When you write about how grateful you are to others and how much other people have blessed your life, it might become considerably harder for you to ruminate on your negative experiences.

2. Gratitude helps even if you don’t share it

We told participants who were assigned to write gratitude letters that they weren’t required to send their letters to their intended recipient. In fact, only 23 percent of participants who wrote gratitude letters sent them. But those who didn’t send their letters enjoyed the benefits of experiencing gratitude nonetheless. (Because the number of people who sent their letters was so small, it was hard for us to determine whether this group’s mental health was better than those who didn’t send their letter.)

Only 23 percent of participants who wrote gratitude letters sent them.

This suggests that the mental health benefits of writing gratitude letters are not entirely dependent on actually communicating that gratitude to another person.

So if you’re thinking of writing a letter of gratitude to someone, but you’re unsure whether you want that person to read the letter, we encourage you to write it anyway. You can decide later whether to send it (and we think it’s often a good idea to do so). But the mere act of writing the letter can help you appreciate the people in your life and shift your focus away from negative feelings and thoughts.

3. Gratitude’s benefits take time

These results are encouraging because many other studies suggest that the mental health benefits of positive activities often decrease rather than increase over time afterward. We don’t really know why this positive snowball effect occurred in our study. Perhaps the gratitude letter writers discussed what they wrote in their letters with their counselors or with others. These conversations may have reinforced the psychological benefits derived from the gratitude writing itself. It’s important to note that the mental health benefits of gratitude writing in our study did not emerge immediately, but gradually accrued over time. Although the different groups in our study did not differ in mental health levels one week after the end of the writing activities, individuals in the gratitude group reported better mental health than the others four weeks after the writing activities, and this difference in mental health became even larger 12 weeks after the writing activities.

For now, the bottom line is this: If you participate in a gratitude writing activity, don’t be too surprised if you don’t feel dramatically better immediately after the writing. Be patient and remember that the benefits of gratitude might take time to kick in.

4. Gratitude has lasting effects on the brain

We used an fMRI scanner to measure brain activity while people from each group did a “pay it forward” task. In that task, the individuals were regularly given a small amount of money by a nice person, called the “benefactor.” This benefactor only asked that they pass the money on to someone if they felt grateful. Our participants then decided how much of the money, if any, to pass on to a worthy cause (and we did in fact donate that money to a local charity). About three months after the psychotherapy sessions began, we took some of the people who wrote gratitude letters and compared them with those who didn’t do any writing. We wanted to know if their brains were processing information differently.

We found that when people who are generally more grateful gave more money to a cause, they showed greater neural sensitivity in the medial prefrontal cortex, a brain area associated with learning and decision making. This suggests that people who are more grateful are also more attentive to how they express gratitude.

We wanted to distinguish donations motivated by gratitude from donations driven by other motivations, like feelings of guilt or obligation. So we asked the participants to rate how grateful they felt toward the benefactor, and how much they wanted to help each charitable cause, as well as how guilty they would feel if they didn’t help. We also gave them questionnaires to measure how grateful they are in their lives in general.

We found that across the participants, when people felt more grateful, their brain activity was distinct from brain activity related to guilt and the desire to help a cause. More specifically, we found that when people who are generally more grateful gave more money to a cause, they showed greater neural sensitivity in the medial prefrontal cortex, a brain area associated with learning and decision making. This suggests that people who are more grateful are also more attentive to how they express gratitude.

Most interestingly, when we compared those who wrote the gratitude letters with those who didn’t, the gratitude letter writers showed greater activation in the medial prefrontal cortex when they experienced gratitude in the fMRI scanner. This is striking as this effect was found three months after the letter writing began. This indicates that simply expressing gratitude may have lasting effects on the brain. While not conclusive, this finding suggests that practicing gratitude may help train the brain to be more sensitive to the experience of gratitude down the line, and this could contribute to improved mental health over time.

Though these are just the first steps in what should be a longer research journey, our research so far not only suggests that writing gratitude letters may be helpful for people seeking counseling services but also explains what’s behind gratitude’s psychological benefits. At a time when many mental health professionals are feeling crunched, we hope that this research can point them—and their clients—toward an effective and beneficial tool.

Regardless of whether you’re facing serious psychological challenges, if you have never written a gratitude letter before, we encourage you to try it. Much of our time and energy is spent pursuing things we currently don’t have. Gratitude reverses our priorities to help us appreciate the people and things we do.

This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, one of Mindful’s partners. View the original article.

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How to Handle Big Emotions During Group Meditation

When sitting with others, I become afraid of making a scene if I get emotional. What should I do?

Have you ever gotten the giggles during a very grave or serious situation? Have you ever tried to stop giggling in that situation? Pressing your fingers to your lips to stop the smile? Stifling the inappropriate but deeply physical urge to guffaw wildly? How’d that work out? How often did a singularly embarrassing and remarkably loud snort escape from you in a moment like that? The old saying is “what you resist, persists.” When you resist sleeplessness, you get insomnia. When you resist sadness, you risk depression. When you resist your daughter’s lousy boyfriend, you get a lousy son-in-law. This is a familiar experience to most of us. Ever tried to STOP worrying? How did that go?

There is no such thing as an illegitimate emotion. If you feel it, then it is as real as an emotion gets, and there is nothing wrong with having it. The challenge is to keep it from overtaking or overwhelming you, to have it simply inform you that you are feeling that way.

So the question becomes whether we can actually allow emotions to arise and flow through us naturally, because they are simply a part of human experience, and let go of resisting them so intensely. This is a significant part of mindfulness practice: to continually work to accept the presence of strong emotions (or any emotions) when they arise, to acknowledge them, and allow them to play themselves out. There is no such thing as an illegitimate emotion. If you feel it, then it is as real as an emotion gets, and there is nothing wrong with having it. The challenge is to keep it from overtaking or overwhelming you, to have it simply inform you that you are feeling that way.

I once read something in the book Bird by Bird, by Anne Lamott, that she’d found in a leaflet: “The Gulf Stream will flow through a straw provided the straw is aligned to the Gulf Stream, and not at cross purposes with it.” If I can align the straw of my own heart to allow the Gulf Stream of strong emotion to flow through it, I can keep my footing and simultaneously feel what I feel. So the task of dealing with the human reality that we feel strong emotions is to not resist them but to orient ourselves toward them in such a way that we can let go of resistance and allow them to flow. And remember: Everyone around you is also human, and every single one of us suffers and feels sadness, desire, frustration, despair, and anger. You are not alone in your feelings, even if that is how it feels in the moment. What you feel—including the feelings of isolation—actually unites you with all of us.

This article appeared in the August 2017 issue of Mindful magazine.

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Smart Phone, Lazy Brain

You probably know the Google Effect: the first rigorous finding in the booming research into how digital technology affects cognition. It’s also known as digital amnesia, and it works like this: When we know where to find a piece of information, and when it takes little effort to do so, we are less likely to remember that information. First discovered by psychologist Betsy Sparrow of Columbia University and her colleagues, the Google Effect causes our brains to take a pass on retaining or recalling facts such as “an ostrich’s eye is bigger than its brain” (an example Sparrow used) when we know they are only a few keystrokes away.

“Because search engines are continually available to us, we may often be in a state of not feeling we need to encode the information internally,” Sparrow explained in her 2011 paper. “When we need it, we will look it up.” Storing information requires mental effort—that’s why we study before exams and cram for presentations—so unless we feel the need to encode something into a memory, we don’t try. Result: Our recollection of ostrich anatomy, and much else, dissipates like foam on a cappuccino.

It’s tempting to leap from the Google Effect to dystopian visions of empty-headed dolts who can’t remember even the route home (thanks a lot, GPS), let alone key events of history (cue Santayana’s hypothesis that those who can’t remember history are doomed to repeat it). But while the short-term effects of digital tech on what we remember and how we think are real, the long-term consequences are unknown; the technology is simply too new for scientists to have figured it out.

People spend an average of 3 to 5 minutes at their computer working on the task at hand before switching to Facebook or other enticing websites.

Before we hit the panic button, it’s worth reminding ourselves that we have been this way before. Plato, for instance, bemoaned the spread of writing, warning that it would decimate people’s ability to remember (why make the effort to encode information in your cortex when you can just consult your handy papyrus?). On the other hand, while writing did not trigger a cognitive apocalypse, scientists are finding more and more evidence that smartphones and internet use are affecting cognition already.

The Google Effect? We’ve probably all experienced it. “Sometimes I spend a few minutes trying hard to remember some fact”—like whether a famous person is alive or dead, or what actor was in a particular movie—“and if I can retrieve it from my memory, it’s there when I try to remember it two, five, seven days later,” said psychologist Larry Rosen, professor emeritus at California State University, Dominguez Hills, who researches the cognitive effects of digital technology. “But if I look it up, I forget it very quickly. If you can ask your device any question, you do ask your device any question” rather than trying to remember the answer or doing the mental gymnastics to, say, convert Celsius into Fahrenheit.

“Doing that is profoundly impactful,” Rosen said. “It affects your memory as well as your strategy for retrieving memories.” That’s because memories’ physical embodiment in the brain is essentially a long daisy chain of neurons, adding up to something like architect I.M. Pei is alive or swirling water is called an eddy. Whenever we mentally march down that chain we strengthen the synapses connecting one neuron to the next. The very act of retrieving a memory therefore makes it easier to recall next time around. If we succumb to the LMGTFY (let me Google that for you) bait, which has become ridiculously easy with smartphones, that doesn’t happen.

To which the digital native might say, so what? I can still Google whatever I need, whenever I need it. Unfortunately, when facts are no longer accessible to our conscious mind, but only look-up-able, creativity suffers. New ideas come from novel combinations of disparate, seemingly unrelated elements. Just as having many kinds of Legos lets you build more imaginative structures, the more elements—facts—knocking around in your brain the more possible combinations there are, and the more chances for a creative idea or invention. Off-loading more and more knowledge to the internet therefore threatens the very foundations of creativity.

Besides letting us outsource memory, smartphones let us avoid activities that many people find difficult, boring, or even painful: daydreaming, introspecting, thinking through problems. Those are all so aversive, it seems, that nearly half of people in a 2014 experiment whose smartphones were briefly taken away preferred receiving electric shocks than being alone with their thoughts. Yet surely our mental lives are the poorer every time we check Facebook or play Candy Crush instead of daydream.

But why shouldn’t we open the app? The appeal is undeniable. We each have downloaded an average of nearly 30 mobile apps, and spend 87 hours per month internet browsing via smartphone, according to digital marketing company Smart Insights. As a result, distractions are just a click away—and we’re really, really bad at resisting distractions. Our brains evolved to love novelty (maybe human ancestors who were attracted to new environments won the “survival of the fittest” battle), so we flit among different apps and websites.

As a result, people spend an average of just three to five minutes at their computer working on the task at hand before switching to Facebook or another enticing website or, with phone beside them, a mobile app. The most pernicious effect of the frenetic, compulsive task switching that smartphones facilitate is to impede the achievement of goals, even small everyday ones. “You can’t reach any complex goal in three minutes,” Rosen said. “There have always been distractions, but while giving in used to require effort, like getting up and making a sandwich, now the distraction is right there on your screen.”

The mere existence of distractions is harmful because resisting distractions that we see out of the corner of our eye (that Twitter app sitting right there on our iPhone screen) takes effort. Using fMRI to measure brain activity, neuroscientist Adam Gazzaley of the University of California, San Francisco, found that when people try to ignore distractions it requires significant mental resources. Signals from the prefrontal cortex race down to the visual cortex, suppressing neuronal activity and thereby filtering out what the brain’s higher-order cognitive regions have deemed irrelevant. So far, so good.

The problem is that the same prefrontal regions are also required for judgment, attention, problem solving, weighing options, and working memory, all of which are required to accomplish a goal. Our brains have limited capacity to do all that. If the prefrontal cortex is mightily resisting distractions, it isn’t hunkering down to finish the term paper, monthly progress report, sales projections, or other goal it’s supposed to be working toward. “We are all cruising along on a superhighway of interference” produced by the ubiquity of digital technology, Gazzaley and Rosen wrote in their 2016 book The Distracted Mind. That impedes our ability to accomplish everyday goals, to say nothing of the grander ones that are built on the smaller ones.

The constant competition for our attention from all the goodies on our phone and other screens means that we engage in what a Microsoft scientist called “continuous partial attention.” We just don’t get our minds deeply into any one task or topic. Will that have consequences for how intelligent, creative, clever, and thoughtful we are? “It’s too soon to know,” Rosen said, “but there is a big experiment going on, and we are the lab rats.”

Tech Invasion LMGTFY

“Let me Google that for you” may be some of the most damaging words for our brain. Psychologists have theorized that the “Google Effect” causes our memories to weaken due merely to the fact that we know we can look something up, which means we don’t keep pounding away at the pathways that strengthen memory. Meanwhile, research suggests that relying on GPS weakens our age-old ability to navigate our surroundings. And to top it all off, the access to novel info popping up on our phone means that, according to Deloitte, people in the US check their phones an average of 46 times per day—which is more than a little disruptive.

This article appeared in the August 2017 issue of Mindful magazine.

The Joy of Missing Out

5 Ways to Organize Your Phone to Unhijack Your Mind

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Find a Moment of Awe—in the Forest

Each day as I come home from work, I walk on a tree-lined street that’s like a small forest. Some days I’m utterly lost in thought, but when possible I try to drink it all in. It’s so much more nourishing than looking at a screen. If I had to choose between a tree and a newsfeed—including a newsfeed about beautiful trees—I would choose the tree. Every time.

If I had to choose between a tree and a newsfeed—including a newsfeed about beautiful trees—I would choose the tree. Every time.

A friend of mine is an arborist who has long exposed me, on excursion after excursion in parks and wilderness, to the wonders of trees and forests, first in Pennsylvania and now in California. Whenever we enter the land of trees, almost instantly the mood changes. There is a palpable slowing down of thought and speech. You can hear more, and better. You begin to sense with more of your body, and there is even a preternatural settledness that can easily overtake you. Some psychologists now consider this complex of mental and bodily experiences to be an emotion, which they call awe, and it’s considered restorative. The forest is Awe Central.

In his magical book, The Hidden Life of Trees: What They Feel, How They Communicate, Discoveries from a Secret World, author and forester Peter Wohlleben—who worked for the German forestry commission for decades before overseeing his own Beech woodland and working for the return of primeval forests—unfolds, in one compact chapter after another, the story of why trees are so magnificent and why they affect us. First off, trees are living creatures—not inert objects merely decorating our world. They live, breathe, eat, sleep, make mistakes and learn, communicate, cooperate, and compete, as they ceaselessly reach for light and water.

One of the profound ways being amid trees affects us is through the time scale. Youth for many trees starts at 150; old age can be 500 or more. When you spend time around something existing in those kinds of time frames, it can alter your perspective, so focused as it is on the next minute, hour, day, week, year. Perhaps this offers one reason that a study cited by Wohlleben showed that time spent in the forest lowers blood pressure.

Trees also show us how deeply entrained community is in our surroundings. They network and communicate with each other by exploiting a vast underground system of fungi, warning other trees of dangers and opportunities. Some trees, like aspens, are really not a group of separate entities. They are one organism, and when, in a strong wind, a whole grove of aspens shivers and shimmers as one, it can overtake you with awe.

Perhaps the greatest features of these large organisms that we share our world with is that their power and grace and talent—and indeed their “technology”—can help us reduce our obsession with being the center of everything and expose the folly and selfishness of short-term thinking. They allow us to feel that—as part of a much greater whole—we are both small and large. And while our individual time on Earth is short, our actions ripple through time, and as a human community, our life is very, very long.

This article appeared in the August 2017 issue of Mindful magazine.

A Guided Awe Walk Meditation

1-Minute Grounding Meditation

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Tuesday 27 June 2017

How to Avoid Confirmation Bias at Work

Where do you get information about the issues you care about?

Do your most common sources confirm or challenge your perspective?

How much time do you spend listening to or reading opposing points of view?

When you make decisions, are you likely to choose the option that the people closest to you will affirm?

In my recent Mindful article, I talked about the importance of adaptability as an essential emotional intelligence competency for leaders. Part of being adaptable is seeking out and being able to take in a broad range of information from many perspectives. It also means being open to alternatives not previously considered. The more ideas or strategies you have to choose from, the more likely you are to choose the most beneficial path.

Neuroscientists have shown that our brain reacts differently to information that confirms our previously held beliefs than it does to material that contradicts our current beliefs.

But a subtle, yet powerful obstacle to such open-mindedness in leadership is confirmation bias—the tendency to see things in ways that confirm your existing beliefs. This often-unconscious bias can impact all levels of how you interact with information, from seeking and interpreting it, to preferring and remembering it. Neuroscientists have shown that our brain reacts differently to information that confirms our previously held beliefs than it does to material that contradicts our current beliefs.

Why Confirmation Bias Matters

One key to effective leadership is a clear understanding of everything that impacts the setting in which the leader operates. If your view is limited by confirmation bias, you may not pay enough attention to information that could be crucial for your work. Leaders also need to be on the lookout for how it might impact the people with whom they work. For example, team members may not share a full range of information or may only tell a leader what they think that leader wants to hear. This can lead to poor decision-making, missed opportunities, and negative outcomes.

How to Avoid Confirmation Bias

Mindfulness and emotional intelligence can both help. People who have high levels of emotional intelligence demonstrate specific competencies that support taking a broad, unbiased perspective. These are some of the EI competencies that help a leader take the broad view:

  • Emotional self-awareness is the basis for much of emotional intelligence. Those who are adept at this competency recognize how their feelings impact their behavior.
  • Developing emotional self-control is the crucial next step after becoming aware. With this skill, leaders are in control of their feelings instead of their emotions being in control of them.
  • Empathy allows us to take on the perspective of others, even those with whom we disagree.
  • Leaders with organizational awareness recognize the power dynamics in their organization and the values of the organization and its key players.
  • Conflict management requires understanding competing perspectives and skill at helping others find common ground.

Avoiding confirmation bias starts with paying attention to how you interact with information.

The basic moves in mindfulness—focus, notice being distracted, refocus—trains your brain to both concentrate and pause so you can pay careful attention.

One way to enhance this might be developing a mindfulness meditation practice, which helps with both emotional self-awareness and self-control. The basic moves in mindfulness—focus, notice being distracted, refocus—trains your brain to both concentrate and pause so you can pay careful attention.

As you practice mindfulness you’ll find that your point of view naturally broadens. You are more likely to have the patience to hear out arguments, even when they contradict your own long-held beliefs, more open to new experiences, and be inclined towards more thoughtful decision-making. But keep in mind that even the most fastidious practitioner could succumb to confirmation bias, so remain open to new ideas and try to recognize when confirmation bias might be present.

Why Our Brain Thrives on Mistakes

Beware Your Biased Brain

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Monday 26 June 2017

A 10-Minute Meditation to Work with Difficult Emotions

​​Can you feel the heat?

Life feels a little more intense these days: at home, work, out in the world. When life begins to feel more intense than normal, it’s important to remember to slow down, turn toward these bigger feelings, and see the bigger picture. Take each day at a time.

Life is always in flux. Every thought, feeling, and moment is quickly changing into the next. In the moment, when something feels difficult, it seems like it will never pass. The practice is learning how to stay with and turn toward the difficulty.

We never really know what is coming next and sometimes the best we can do is put one foot in front of the other and keep breathing through all of it. I often remind myself that conflict is growth trying to happen. The power of learning how to live a mindful life is to embrace this truth as much as you possibly can and live for the moment with some future planning that you hold loosely.

What I hear from most of my clients and students is that uncertainty is what creates the most difficulty. As much as we would like to know, to control, and to plan every little part of our lives so that it all works out in a way that creates more security and ease, we cannot. Life will always be impermanent and therefore always uncertain. We never really know what is coming next and sometimes the best and most courageous thing we can do is put one foot in front of the other and keep breathing through all of it. The power of learning how to live a mindful life is to embrace this truth as much as you possibly can and live for the moment with some future planning that you hold loosely.

The more we can meet any difficulty with presence, compassion, and kindness, the easier we can move through it. It requires that we learn to stay by turning toward the difficulty versus pushing away.

Meditation trains you to be resilient. The more you can learn to stay with all the highs and lows of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, the more strength you can bring to each moment and experience.

For example, the other week, a good friend was going through a lot of difficulty and loss. After meeting with him recently, I was struck by how intense the feelings of sadness and loss were transmitted between us. I spent a few days afterward feeling off center, crying off and on, and feeling a bit agitated in my body. At first, I was taken aback by how intense these feelings were and noticed my mind trying to make sense of what was happening. The more I could turn toward my experience, and the physical sensations in my body, with compassion and understanding, I could feel the emotions passing and releasing.

Meditation trains you to be resilient. The more you can learn to stay with all the highs and lows of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, the more strength you can bring to each moment and experience.

Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor shares in her research that most emotions don’t last longer than 90 seconds. I first heard about the lifecycle of emotions several years ago. I felt relieved to hear this 90-second timespan because it had mirrored some my experiences as a meditation practitioner for nearly 20 years. In the beginning of my practice, I had big waves of emotions that definitely lasted longer than 90 seconds. Why? I had never really sat with myself or allowed these feelings to be seen so there was a lot inside of me that wanted to come out. However, with time and practice, whatever feeling I was having passed through me more easily—as long as I brought my attention, understanding and compassionate observing to the table. In the case of grief, PTSD, and/or depression there may be more time needed to work with these feelings and I recommend that anyone with depression or mood disorders consult a mental health professional before beginning or altering any course of treatment.

I have also found, personally and professionally, that other somatic-based therapies can be complimentary to a meditation practice for approaching difficult emotions, including somatic release, acupuncture, yoga, and daily movement.

What Does Staying with Uncertainty Look Like?

We have a tendency to resist, reach for something pleasant, or deny the difficulty by putting our heads in the sand and this can ultimately create more suffering. This is a phrase I say to myself at any time I feel fear, anger, or confusion arising. It encourages me to stay and be here no matter what I am experiencing:

“I am here.”
“I am now.”
“All I need is within me.”
“All I need comes to me.”

Below is a meditation practice I have been using on myself and with clients that can support you to stay with what is difficult.

A 10-Minute Meditation Guided Meditation to Work With Difficult Emotions

  • Come into a comfortable sitting position. Imagine something difficult that you are going through. It doesn’t have to be the most difficult, but something moderately difficult. We want to practice with moderation before we move into the most difficult. Now, recognize your desire to push away the difficulty, to reach toward something that would soothe the difficulty in the moment (reaching out to someone, chocolate, distracting with technology, etc.), or denying that this difficulty is actually happening.
  • Now turn toward it. Breathe deeply in through your nose and out through your mouth a few times. Now invite into your awareness a large figure of compassion and strength who envelops you in a blanket of love, acceptance, and security. It can be a big cloud of compassion, a large grandmotherly figure, anything that feels loving and kind. Now, imagine this figure is holding you.
  • Turn fully towards your difficulty. Face it, head on. There is no need to be scared. Feel this wise being enveloping you and speaking kindly to you: “It will be okay, you are okay, you are lovable, you are enough, you are not alone, and we will get through this together.” Let yourself offer and receive loving and kind statements as many times as you need until your mind and body can soothe and slow down.
  • Each time, you notice yourself reaching for the old familiar way of turning away from discomfort, try gently turning toward it. The more you train the mind to acknowledge and name whatever difficulty is here, it won’t feel so challenging. In addition, your limbic system and specifically your amygdala will send a signal to your sympathetic nervous system that you can physiologically relax.
  • When I do this meditation, I often hold stones that are comforting to me, such as rose quartz, while sitting on my meditation cushion. You can find the props or comforts that speak to you.
To cultivate the tools to use every difficulty as an opportunity to awaken and live a mindful life, sign up for the free Mindful Living workbook.

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How to Be Mindful When Life is in Flux

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Friday 23 June 2017

Stories That Imprison Our Heart – Part 2 - Tara Brach

Stories That Imprison Our Heart – Part 2 –

Our suffering arises from fear-based stories that are often outside our awareness. These include stories of our deficiency or importance, of being a victim, of being unseen or unloved, of facing failure or rejection.  This is true collectively too.  We have shared stories of bad “others” that fuel wars, shared stories of the value of continued growth in consumption and production that destroy our earth, shared stories of our human right to enslave and violate other animals. We have the capacity to bring the stories that separate and imprison us into the light of awareness, and with great compassion, loosen their grip. These two talks look at the ways fear-based stories create suffering, and how awakening from them reveals the freedom of our true, and universal, belonging.

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“Adult” Better with Meditation

A lot of us avoid meditation because it doesn’t seem accessible. But meditation doesn’t need to be an exotic retreat—although some of our neighbors are quite literally retreating to exotic places this time of year to partake in various mindfulness and yoga programs. Additionally, you don’t need a zafu (a round meditation cushion) and mindfulness apps are optional.

The creators of the How to Adult Youtube channel created a five-minute primer on how to meditate. They discuss the benefits, the practice—including some pointers from Mindful on basic seated meditation.

All you need is five minutes and a chair to follow the demonstration.

How to Practice Mindfulness

How To Meditate with Noise: A 3-Minute Practice for Anywhere

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Meditation: Arriving in Embodied Presence (24:00 min) - Tara Brach

Meditation: Arriving in Embodied Presence –

This guided meditation instruction includes:
1 – Arriving in embodied presence with senses awake,
2 – Further collecting the attention using a primary anchor or base, and
3 – Continuing to collect around an anchor or widening to rest in open, natural awareness – in presence with what is.

Given as part of the morning guided meditation Instruction on the Spring 2017 IMCW Retreat.

 

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Thursday 22 June 2017

Does Anxiety Make It Hard for You to Focus? Take a Meditation Break

A wandering mind is a familiar foe to anyone who has a job to do but just. can’t. seem. to. focus. When you’re anxious, the train of worries and fears running through your head makes concentrating that much more difficult.

A small study conducted at the University of Waterloo suggests that just 10 minutes of mindfulness helps. In the study, 82 participants who experience anxiety were given a computer task to complete, but were regularly disrupted. They were then split into two groups: one group listened to a guided meditation for 10 minutes, while the other group listened to an audio book for 10 minutes. Participants were then sent back to the computer while the disruptions continued.

Mindfulness meditation promoted a switch of attention from their internal thoughts to the external environment. It helped them focus on what’s happening right now, in the moment, and not to get trapped in their worries.”

—Mengran Xu, lead researcher, University of Waterloo

The meditators had greater success in staying focused, and, as a result, they performed better on the task. “That was surprising to me,” says lead researcher and psychology PhD candidate Mengran Xu. “Mindfulness meditation promoted a switch of attention from their internal thoughts to the external environment. It helped them focus on what’s happening right now, in the moment, and not to get trapped in their worries.”

How does mindfulness curb rumination?

This study adds to the growing body of evidence that mindfulness could be a powerful ally for people who struggle with ruminating thoughts and internal focus common with anxiety and depression. But, Xu adds, just why it helps is still unknown. “If we know how, we can make it more effective.

He wants to find out. Xu and colleagues have already finished one forthcoming study where participants were instructed in mindfulness meditation, muscle relaxation, or listened to an audio book. Xu says his team wants to see “how each intervention would affect people’s scope of attention, cognition, and problem solving in a hypothetical stressful situation. The aim is to examine if mindfulness practice expands people’s perspective.

“Sometimes [stress]is inevitable, but it depends on how broad your perspective is. Both mindfulness meditation and relaxation can help broaden how people think about things.”

They’re also doing a follow-up study to the mind-wandering research, to gain insight into how other mindfulness practices might impact the switch from internal focus to the external environment.

Meditate at Your Desk

Your Breath is Your Brain’s Remote Control

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Tuesday 20 June 2017

Celebrate the Life You Have

Last week, my wife and I sat in a doctor’s office in Boston, waiting for news about her latest round of scans. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer almost 2 years ago, not long after our son’s second birthday. Since that time, we’ve been through multiple surgeries, recurrences, chemotherapy, and dozens of late night trips to the Emergency Room.

After scans, it seems like we always have to wait at least 20 minutes for the doctor. I don’t mind waiting in the lobby, but once we’re in the office, it’s torture. I know that the doctor could walk in at any second with news that could change everything. I brace myself with every sound of footsteps in the hallway.

My wife and I always hold hands and meditate during this time. I bring my attention to my body and direct the energy of compassion to both of us.

In the path of mindfulness, we never know when our practice will lead to a deeper level of understanding and freedom. We just practice and allow the fruits to ripen in their own time. Thankfully, as we waited in that office, something opened in me and I experienced a new insight that has profoundly improved my life.

I sat with my awareness concentrated on my body and felt all of the tension and agitation that were present in me. The thought that kept arising in my mind was, “No. I don’t want this.” It felt like every part of me was rejecting the reality in which I found myself, as though I might be able to change it through pure force of will. I watched this happening in me and used my conscious breathing to keep myself from getting swept up in it.

I know that mindfulness practice is not just about slowing down and observing the surface of things. Instead, it invites us to look deeper in order to understand. It occurred to me to ask myself why I hated this experience so much, and the response was immediately, “Because I love my wife and I don’t want her to die.” Obvious, right? Yet, with my mind and body a little more grounded, it was a revelation. I looked at her and felt her warm hand in mine. I could see that I was in such pain because I don’t want to lose her—because she’s so precious to me. Yet right in that moment, there she is, alive and here with me. What I am doing grieving? I was so lost in pain that I couldn’t celebrate this real moment of being together. From this new perspective, it seemed like such a waste of time.

I was so lost in pain that I couldn’t celebrate this real moment of being together. From this new perspective, it seemed like such a waste of time.

When I teach about mindfulness, there’s an example I often use to show how the best intentions can go horribly wrong if we’re not aware. I ask people to imagine a man who gets cut off in traffic and then sticks his head out the window shouting obscenities and maybe even throws a plastic bottle at the other car. If we could pause in that moment and ask the man why he’s doing that, he might say, “Because that jerk cut me off.” Going a little deeper, we ask why that upset him so much and he answers, “Because it was really unsafe and disrespectful.” Oh, we say, so you want to be safe and respected? He says, “Of course.” So the way he’s trying to meet his need for safety and respect is to scream out of his car window and throw a bottle.

In that moment with my wife, I felt as misguided as the man in my story. There we were, alive and together. The intensity of my emotions was entirely based on how dear she is to me. The only thing that made any sense was to celebrate that moment of being together. I began crying tears of joy. In this present moment, we are alive and the only thing to do is to feel grateful.

When the doctor finally arrived, we got good news. At least for now, there is no progression in her disease. However, we’ve had enough good scans and bad ones to know this doesn’t mean we’re in the clear. A few months from now, we’ll be back in that same room with no way to predict what the doctor will say. Yet that moment belongs to the future. Right here and right now, we are alive and I refuse to waste of minute of this precious time. This experience is teaching us to celebrate the life we have, and that’s just what we’ll do.

The Science and Practice of Staying Present Through Difficult Times

How to Care Deeply Without Burning Out

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