Wednesday 31 July 2019

Vipassana or Insight Meditation and Instruction: from Day 4 on Retreat (29:20 min.)


Vipassana, also known as insight meditation, is training in bringing a clear mindful attention to our moment to moment experience. We begin by relaxing through the body and then resting attention with the breath – or some other sensory anchor – and allowing the mind to settle. Then we open to whatever is predominant or calling our attention – sensations, emotions, sounds – meeting each arising experience with a clear, kind attention. The gift of this process is discovering balance in the midst of the changing flow, and gaining deep insight into the nature of reality.

NOTE: this is an instruction and meditation given in the morning of Day 4 at the IMCW Spring 2019 7-day silent retreat.

… You might sense the whole earth body, our extended body and the energy and life flowing through the earth and through you. Filling your whole body with the awareness and aliveness that’s really here.

Letting everything happen, not stopping anything, this whole field of sensation. Letting life live through you, including the coming and going of sound. Resting in the awareness that’s listening to and feeling this whole moment. …

~ Tara

 

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The Science and Practice of Staying Present Through Difficult Times

Advertising Account Representative

Advertising Account Representative

Come join the dynamic team at Mindful—a mission-driven media company that is dedicated to sharing secular mindfulness to support good health, positive relationships, and a compassionate society. With a monthly audience of over two million, this is a chance to make a real impact! You’ll enjoy our positive, flexible, and collaborative work culture.

We’re seeking two Advertising Account Representatives to join our Halifax, NS office. Bring your enthusiasm and experience in advertising sales to our multi-media platforms, Mindful magazine and mindful.org. The ideal candidate will be motivated to build excellent relationships with our clients and potential customers, and to grow our print and online advertising as a key contributor to supporting Mindful’s work and mission.

Key Responsibilities:

  • Support international ad sales across all platforms associated with Mindful magazine and mindful.org.
  • Build and maintain strong relationships with existing and potential clients through friendly, responsive service.
  • Conduct outbound phone/online meeting/email sales to new and existing endemic (mindfulness-oriented) advertising accounts.
  • Help determine sales strategies and priorities in collaboration with Advertising Director.
  • Renew existing and past advertisers, and identify and cultivate potential new advertisers.
  • Prepare advertising proposals and contracts, along with sales projections, through customer relationship management (CRM) software.
  • Maintain timely entry and ongoing updates in company CRM.
  • Set up and deliver sales presentations and other sales activities as assigned.
  • Any other duties as assigned.

Qualifications and skills:

  • Excellent communication, negotiating, and influencing skills; and creative and strategic thinking abilities.
  • Practice or interest in mindfulness and meditation.

Additional Information:

  • This is a full-time, permanent position.  Base salary plus commission arrangement, commensurate with experience. 
  • We offer flexible working arrangements, paid leave, and employer-paid health insurance.
  • We are a supportive and inclusive workplace and encourage people from diverse communities, cultures and backgrounds to apply.

Deadline for Applications: Will remain open until positions are filled.

To apply, please send your resume and cover letter to Cindy Littlefair at hr@mindful.org. Include “Advertising Account Representative” in the subject line.

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Tuesday 30 July 2019

How to Take Back Attention

We are living through a quiet crisis of attention and ironically many of us don’t even notice. In previous posts, I’ve written about the essential importance of attention. Quality of attention is the foundation for not only effective action but also experiencing a sense of well-being, purpose, and meaning. More skillfully handling attention is one of the essential management challenges of our day.

Since my article on attention, several readers have told me that they never connected their frenetic days and frazzled feelings to their poor use of attention. But in retrospect, it seems an obvious relationship.

Skillfully handling attention is one of the essential management challenges of our day.

We are largely an attention illiterate society. When I raise this to executive or professional audiences I’m speaking to, usually two distinct reactions emerge.

The first is, “Yeah, this is nuts! What are we doing to ourselves?” The president of a manufacturing company related a story of walking into the weekly leadership meeting of a firm his had recently taken over. They were “a two-hour free for all” where “nothing of much substance happened.” “It wasn’t a big surprise why they were performing so poorly,” he said.

The second and far more common reaction is, “Yeah … manage attention? Good luck! That’s impossible around here!” A group’s habits around attention have so much momentum they seem impossible to change. This is probably where you work.

How to Manage Attention in the Workplace

What follows comes from a client of mine. The firm is a global aerospace company whose day-to-day operations are intense and routinely described in terms of war. “Incoming!” and “Ambushes” are all part of a day’s work.

Eleanor is a well-respected, innovative, and forward-moving director of human resources. She participated in a course on mindful leadership I developed for her firm two years ago.

The course asks participants to experiment with ways to better enhance the quality of attention of the working environment. Along with her team, she took up the exercise with her typical gusto. A phone call to her last week revealed that the methods she and her team developed are still going strong, despite a roller coaster of change within the organization.

Here are three steps she took to manage attention in the workplace:

1. Identify the attention challenges

First, because no person is an island, she approached the attention-enhancing effort as a team-building exercise. She understood that their attention challenges weren’t only technological, but they were also social. The team needed to craft a new shared understanding about how they were going to use their attention with one another. This is the conversation we all need to have.

First, they dialogued about their intentions. What did they want as a team? What were they doing now that wasn’t working? How was mindfulness going to translate into value for themselves and the firm?

2. Recognize what can be changed

They realized that distraction reduced not only their ability to perform, but their sense of satisfaction and connection with one another. They recognized that for them to perform well as a team, the quality of their own connection must be strong.

This insight led them to pay greater attention to how they interacted between themselves. Because the firm is 60,000+ people, they understood they weren’t going to change the firm, but they could change themselves in relationship to one another. Their goal was to create a “culture of calm” in an otherwise chaotic and dynamic environment.

3. Settle on a common goal

Furthermore, they needed to get things done. After a lot of honest, open discussions, they settled on the goal of “At the end of the day, we have accomplished important things.” Framing the goal in this way gave the team something clear and positive to move toward. It set up a benchmark to evaluate actions against. In other words, they could assess “will this help me accomplish important things by the end of the day?”

Try It: “Project Focus Time”

A central pillar of their effort is “Project Focus Time.” They agreed that to accomplish important things, they needed to dedicate time to focus attention. The team agreed that each member would receive at least 90 minutes a day to focus. Unless a customer showed up or the building was on fire, the person was to be left alone.

Project Focus Time dramatically changed how the team worked together for the better. They saw how their ability to focus influenced the quality of their results as well as their ability to feel satisfied with the work they’ve done. “Do your best and go home,” was one motto they stood by.

Their guidelines were simple:

  • During the focus time, focus on one deliverable to be accomplished.  Avoid multi-tasking!
  • Switch cell phone and IM to away or do not disturb mode.
  • Focus time is not to exceed 1.5 hours and is to be utilized only once a day, if needed.

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Marketing Coordinator

Marketing Coordinator

Come join the dynamic team at Mindful—a mission-driven media company that is dedicated to sharing secular mindfulness to support good health, positive relationships and a compassionate society. With a monthly audience of over two million, this is a chance to make a real impact! You’ll enjoy our positive, flexible and collaborative work culture. 

We’re seeking a Marketing Coordinator based in Halifax, NS. The ideal candidate will be self-motivated to execute marketing strategies that foster inspiration and engagement and to run campaigns that are audience-centered and data-driven. You’ll thrive in an ever-changing, fast-paced environment. You’ll see problems as opportunities and offer ideas and solutions that help drive campaign success. You’ll work well both collaboratively and independently as needed. 

Key Responsibilities:

  • Plan and manage assigned marketing projects including the development of marketing plans, promotions, and engagement activities.
  • Support the implementation of promotional campaigns in collaboration with other Mindful departments and/or external partners to develop content and marketing materials.
  • Assist in managing Mindful’s digital presence, including website updates, customer relationship management (CRM) platforms and social media execution.
  • Manage marketing email campaigns. 
  • Track performance through digital analytics.
  • Write, edit, and design marketing promotions, newsletters, and other digital media materials as assigned.
  • Any other duties as requested.

Qualifications and skills:

  • Some relevant promotional and/or marketing experience. 
  • Superior project management skills with knowledge/experience in business-to-consumer (B2C) marketing, marketing campaign management, design and content writing.
  • Ability to excel in a fast-paced, deadline-driven environment. 
  • Confidence in evaluating options and making recommendations on proposed solutions.

Nice-to-haves:

  • Experience in website content management , Google Analytics reporting, email distribution systems and CRM systems.
  • Interest and background in mindfulness
  • Experience and/or aptitude with graphic design

Additional Information: This is a full-time permanent position. Salary is commensurate with qualifications. Flexible working arrangements, paid leave, and employer-paid health benefits. We are a supportive and inclusive workplace and encourage people from diverse communities, cultures and backgrounds to apply.

Deadline for Applications: Will remain open until position is filled.

To apply, please submit a cover letter and resume to Cindy Littlefair at hr@mindful.org. Please be sure to include “Marketing Coordinator (FMS)” in the subject line.

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Monday 29 July 2019

Why Listening is the Most Radical Act

Pain and suffering may often seem to be calling us to jump in and fix things, but perhaps they are asking us first to be still enough to hear what can really help, what can truly get to the cause of this suffering, what will not only eliminate it now but prevent it from returning. So, before we act, we need to listen. When we do become quiet enough and “listen up,” the way opens, and we see the possibilities for action.

We give very little attention to learning to listen, learning to really hear another person or situation. Yet think back to the moments with other people when our hearts were engaged and we felt fed by being together. In those moments, weren’t we hearing one another? In times like those, when we have listened to and heard one another, we have felt life arising from a shared perspective.

Why We Miss New Opportunities

Each situation, each moment of life, is new. We and this other person or group of people have never been here before. Oh, we’ve been in moments like it, but the present moment is new even if we have performed the same action with the same person hundreds of times before. Of course, it’s easy to think, “Well, it’s just like the last time, so I’ll do what I did last time,” and then not have to listen to the new moment. But if we do that, our lives become boring replications of what we have always done before, and we miss the possibilities of surprise, of new and more creative solutions, of mystery.

For our often humdrum lives to retain the taste of living truth, we have to listen freshly—again and again.

For our often humdrum lives to retain the taste of living truth, we have to listen freshly—again and again. A human interaction includes both the uniqueness of each being and the unity of the two, which transcends the separateness. For our minds to take such a subtle process and trivialize it to “just this again” or “nothing but that” is to reduce us to automatons, to objects for one another. And for action to be compassionate, we need to eliminate the idea of object, we need to be here together doing exactly what needs to be done in the simplest way we can. We need to listen.

How Mindful Listening Leads to Real Change

When we begin to act by listening, the rest follows naturally. It’s not so easy, of course—it requires us to give up preconceived ideas, judgments, and desires in order to allow space to hear what is being said. True listening requires a deep respect and a genuine curiosity about situations as well as a willingness just to be there and share stories. Listening opens the space, allows us to hear what needs to be done in that moment. It also allows us to hear when it is better not to act, which is sometimes a hard message to receive.

There are many people and organizations teaching techniques for clear active listening and appreciating the role of listening in the process of change. One such group is Rural Southern Voice for Peace, which has developed The Listening Project, a process by which members of grass-roots groups go door to door or to familiar gathering places as they are beginning a project. They ask “open-ended questions in a non-judgmental but challenging way that encourages people to share their deepest thoughts” about the area of the group’s concern.

Listening to others clearly opens the way to understanding the helping situation. But listening to others requires quieting some of the voices that already exist within us.

They report that “remarkable things happen as this process unfolds: Activists empathize with former ‘opponents,’ replacing negative stereotypes with understanding and concern; barriers are overcome as both sides experience common ground and see each other as human beings with deeply held hopes and fears. People being surveyed feel affirmed, sensing that what the listeners really want is to know their opinions; some start to change their opinions as they explore, often for the first time, their deeper feelings about social problems.”

Listening to others clearly opens the way to understanding the helping situation. But listening to others requires quieting some of the voices that already exist within us. When this happens, there is space not only for the voices of others but for our own truest voice. And, as Alice Walker has said, “The inner voice can be very scary sometimes. You listen, and then you go ‘Do what?’ I don’t wanna do that! But you still have to pay attention to it.”

Three Ways to Practice Mindful Listening

  1. Begin by listening to yourself. We need to take time to quiet down and listen to ourselves with attention—not only in the midst of action but when we are alone, walking in the woods, making tea, praying in church, fishing in a stream, or sitting in meditation.
  2. Try a breathing practice. A simple breath meditation can be helpful, because it returns us to a basic connection with the world. As we breathe in and out, and bring our awareness gently to our breath, we are experiencing the world coming into us and ourselves going back out into the world. We are reminded, in a simple physical way, that we are not separate from the world but continually interacting with it in the very makeup of our being.
  3. Give your undivided attention to others. We need to listen fully. It’s the basis of all compassionate action. Such full listening helps us hear who is calling and what we can do in response. When we listen for the truth of a moment, we know better what to do and what not to do, when to act and when not to act. We hear that we are all here together, and we are all we’ve got.

This article was adapted from Compassion in Action: Setting Out on the Path of Service by Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush.

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What My Dog Taught Me About Acceptance

  Listen to Steven Petrow read his essay: “What My Dog Taught Me About Acceptance”
  • 7:00

Stretched into a Downward Facing Dog pose in a yoga class, I listened as the instructor talked about the “cycle of acceptance.” Modeled on Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s five stages of loss and grief, the cycle is a way of absorbing a painful blow and working your way through to, well, acceptance. When our teacher suggested that each of us identify the situation that we most needed to resolve, I knew mine immediately. It had to do with my then-husband, who had just started divorce proceedings: “Accept Jim for who he is and let go.”

Since separating from my ex, I had zigzagged around feelings of denial, depression, bargaining, and anger (yes, mostly anger). But I couldn’t move closer to acceptance. Guided meditations helped some, especially a few specifically on “acceptance” and “surrender,” but still fell short. Looking back now, however, I’ve come to realize that it was my relationship with Zoe, my now-16-year-old Jack Russell terrier, that revealed critical lessons about acceptance that were strong enough to dissipate my lingering anger. 

Hello Zoe, the Terrier-ist

Zoe came as a package deal with Jim 14 years ago, when she was a two-year-old “terrier-ist.” We each brought a dog to our romantic partnership: My canine baggage included Max, a rescue Cocker Spaniel then pushing 10. He was sweet as honeysuckle nectar, if a bit goofy and completely clueless—and Zoe, too smart and too wound up, wanted nothing to do with him. Early on, she set the tone when she backed Max into a corner and bloodied him with her razor-like incisors. I could hardly believe that such a little dog—12 pounds—could be so aggressive. But that’s the nature of both the breed and denial: a suspension of belief.

I quickly turned to bargaining (think bribery) to try to find a resolution, desperately attempting to win Zoe over with treats of every flavor (even wild boar). I gave her a squeaky toy squirrel—which, every single morning, she flipped high into the air before attempting to break its neck. I remained determined to woo her, since I knew this relationship needed to work in order for Jim and me to succeed. But it didn’t—at least not during our marriage.

The reign of the terrier continued after we all moved in together. I did my best to soothe the relationship: dividing the house with gates, calming the dogs (and myself) with anti-anxiety medications, even arranging therapy at the North Carolina State Veterinary Canine Behavioral Service. 

The problem wasn’t just between the pooches. Zoe bit me on several occasions (often enough that I kept the antibacterial Phisoderm at the ready). One night, Zoe unexpectedly lunged at my face, tearing my upper lip and sending me to the ER post-haste. Forget the bargaining—I found myself squarely at anger, with a good-sized dose of depression thrown in (oh, and pain, too).

The canine conflict became a recurrent theme in our couples therapy, which also focused on mutual acceptance of each other’s faults and foibles. While Zoe and Max were not invited, their ongoing battle often mirrored our sessions.

Missing Is the Hardest Part

When my beloved Max died, Zoe did not celebrate with her prancing happy dance. In fact, she seemed bereft. With the entire house now open to her (no more gates), she hardly knew what to do with her freedom. She’d approach Max’s leash, still hanging at the back door, as if it were an apparition. It smells like Max, so why is Max not here? I imagined her wondering. As I watched her approach, retreat, and sniff, I was certain she was processing her own loss, and I actually felt genuine sympathy for her. In the months that followed, I found my anger with her dissolving into what I imagined was our shared grief at losing Max. 

In the months that followed, I found my anger with her dissolving into what I imagined was our shared grief at losing Max. 

Was it possible I was beginning to accept Zoe for who she was?

Yes, I’d started to realize that Zoe, like her “masters,” was a product of nature and nurture, a prisoner of both her gene pool and her environment. Dog experts have consistently noted the breed’s aggression, possessiveness, and jealousy, as well as its “small dog/big attitude” traits. Yes and yes. The more I understood her hard wiring, the more I was able to forgive her for behaviors she could not control.

Age also took its toll on Zoe, with increasing frailties that included deafness and incontinence. One morning I woke to discover she had soiled her pet bed and herself. Such naked humiliation. Rather than resist—or attack—she simply went limp as I bathed her.

Coming Full Circle

After Jim left, I surprised myself (and the friends who knew our bloody backstory) by asking for joint custody. He said no.

My divorce lawyer advised me not to fight it, pointing out that legally a pet is considered just another possession (in this case, Jim’s). In our separation agreement, Zoe was listed between “electric salt and pepper shaker” and “red bowl.”  There would be no bargaining here, only more loss and anger. I signed the agreement, which acknowledged that Zoe belonged to Jim.

A few weeks later, I was shocked to get an email from Jim telling me his new condo wasn’t dog friendly. Was I interested in taking Zoe full time? In a Malcolm Gladwell “blink” moment, I said yes. That’s when I knew I had come full circle, accepting her worst behaviors without trying to change them—or her. 

I’d have been blind not to see that what applies to four-legged loved ones also applies to the two-legged variety. I realized that my intention at yoga class—accept Jim for who he is and let go—had been more than a metaphor. For me, acceptance paved the road to separation and divorce, which finally meant being able to live without rancor and regrets.  

Thanks, Zoe.

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Friday 26 July 2019

The Path of Spiritual Surrender: Part 2


Cultivating a surrendering presence allows us to release the identity of a small, separate self, and open to the truth and fullness of who we are. These two talks explore misunderstandings about surrender (such as the fear that we will become passive or condone injustice) and the practices that create the grounds for surrender, emotional healing, transformational activism and spiritual freedom.

Wean yourself

Little by little, wean yourself.
This is the gist of what I have to say.
From an embryo, whose nourishment comes in the blood,
move to an infant drinking milk,
to a child on solid food,
to a searcher after wisdom,
to a hunter of more invisible game.

Think how it is to have a conversation with an embryo.
You might say ‘The world outside is vast and intricate.
There are wheatfields and mountain passes,
and orchards in bloom.

At night there are millions of galaxies, and in sunlight
the beauty of friends dancing at a wedding.’

You ask the embryo why he, or she, stays cooped up
in the dark with eyes closed.

Listen to the answer.

There is no ‘other world’
I only know what I have experienced.
You must be hallucinating.

~ Rumi

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The Amazing Effects of Gratitude

Thursday 25 July 2019

Meditation: Letting Go (20:23 min.)


One way of understanding meditation is a letting go of the habitual clenching of thoughts, the clenching that resists emotions and pulls away from aliveness itself. This meditation guides us in letting go, first through the body, and then practicing letting go of thoughts and relaxing and resting in the changing flow of experience. The blessing of letting go is a homecoming into the truth and wholeness of what we are, a realization of reality, and freedom.
NOTE: Listen to the rain, too…

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How Mindful Breathing Trains Your Brain to Focus

Your brain is actually shaped by your thoughts and your behaviors, which is why stress can take a toll on brain function over time. While some studies have shown that mindfulness meditation can help boost attention and keep the brain sharp as we age, we’ve yet to understand why that happens. Now, a new study published in the journal Progress in Brain Research, suggests that the answer to that question can be found by simply paying attention to the breath.

The study centered on mindful breath awareness training (M-BAT). Mindful breath awareness involves paying attention to the breath and observing thoughts, feelings, sensations and other experiences that arise without becoming fixated on them. No breath control or manipulation is required. For this study, 21 healthy adults received four hours of mindful breath awareness training and then were asked to practice breath awareness for 10 minutes per day, at least five days per week, for three weeks. 

Participants in this study were told to either pay attention to the movement of the diaphragm and abdomen while breathing, or to focus on the airflow around their nostrils. They were provided with an audio CD with a guided meditation and a booklet with written instructions, and asked to log their meditation practice in a diary. After three weeks, their performance on a mental exercise was compared to results from 15 adults with no prior meditation experience.

Meditators also showed an increase in brain activity related to monitoring conflict and inhibiting their responses. The more they meditated, the better the results.

Previous research suggests that mindfulness meditation can increase awareness of our thoughts, or meta-cognitive awareness, as well as regulate emotion, enhance attention and reduce stress. These changes can also be detected in the brain. Scientists often use a “go/no go” task to test some of these skills. The task requires participants to respond (“go”) by pressing a button when they see one stimulus – say a green dot – and not respond (“no go”) when another object – like a red dot — appears. Accurate and speedy responses suggest greater attention, inhibition, and mental efficiency. Impulsivity can also be examined by looking at brain waves activity when a person performs the go/no go task, to see how quickly the brain responds when a mistake is made. 

When comparing their performance before and after training, researchers found the meditators to be less impulsive and more accurate on the go/no go task than adults with no meditation experience. Meditators also showed an increase in brain activity related to monitoring conflict and inhibiting their responses. The more they meditated, the better the results. 

The study’s authors are quick to note that although mindful breath awareness may improve attention and help curb impulsive behavior, this does not mean that breath awareness interventions are therapeutically effective for reducing impulsivity or increasing attention. It does suggest that breath awareness may be one of many avenues through which meditation may train the brain to work more efficiently.  

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Tuesday 23 July 2019

How Mindfulness Improves Strategic Thinking

Over the course of a couple of decades, meditation has migrated from Himalayan hilltops and Japanese Zendos to corporate boardrooms and corridors of power, including GoogleAppleAetnathe Pentagon, and the U.S. House of Representatives.

On a personal level, leaders are taking note of empirical research documenting meditation’s potential for reducing stress, lowering blood pressure, and improving emotional regulation. Mindfulness meditation—the practice of cultivating deliberate focused attention on the present momenthas caught on as a way to bring focus, authenticity, and intention to the practice of leadership. Daniel Goleman and Bill George have described mindfulness as a means to listen more deeply and guide actions through clear intention rather than emotional whims or reactive patterns.

In an age in which corporations and public organizations are increasingly under attack for short-term thinking, a dearth of vision, and perfunctory reactions to quick stimuli, it’s worth posing the question: Can mindfulness help organizations—not just individual leaders—behave more intentionally? Practically speaking, can organizational leaders integrate mindfulness practices into strategic planning processes?

How Mindfulness Creates Space to Innovate

Seventy years ago, Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist who had just emerged from years as a prisoner at Auschwitz, shed some light on the question with a now-classic teaching. “Between stimulus and response, there is a space,” he wrote in 1946. “In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

Mindfulness—the practice of watching one’s breath and noticing thoughts and sensations—is, at its core, a practice of cultivating this kind of space. It’s about becoming aware of how the diverse internal and external stimuli we face can provoke automatic, immediate, unthinking responses in our thoughts, emotions, and actions.

As the University of Virginia’s Timothy Wilson has argued, our brains are not equipped to handle the 11-plus million bits of information arriving at any given moment. For the sake of efficiency, we tend to make new decisions based upon old frames, memories, or associations. Through mindfulness practice, a person is able to notice how the mind reacts to thoughts, sensations, and information, seeing past the old storylines and habitual patterns that unconsciously guide behavior. This creates space to deliberately choose how to speak and act.

Through mindfulness practice, a person is able to notice how the mind reacts to thoughts, sensations, and information, seeing past the old storylines and habitual patterns that unconsciously guide behavior.

Organizations, like individuals, need this kind of space.

As UCLA’s Richard Rumelt, a leading expert on strategic planning, writes in his book Good Strategy, Bad Strategy, one of the quintessential components of good strategy is the ability to take a step out of the internal storyline and shift viewpoints. “An insightful reframing of a competitive situation” he writes, “can create whole new patterns of advantage and weakness. The most powerful strategies arise from such game-changing insights.”

To craft strategy on the basis of what Harvard’s Richard Chait and other scholars have called generative thinking, it’s not only necessary to identify a coherent set of policies or actions in response to a problem or opportunity, it’s also necessary to elucidate the full range of values, assumptions, and external factors at play in a decision-making situation. It’s essential to step back and ask not only whether the team has identified the right plans or solutions but whether they have identified the right questions and problems in the first place. All this requires space between stimulus and response.

Three Ways to Use Mindfulness When Planning

So how can organizations bring more space to strategic planning? Is the answer to simply recruit leaders and board members who engage in contemplative practices?

It can’t hurt. Steve Jobs, a regular meditator, made use of mindfulness practice to challenge operating assumptions at Apple and to enhance creative insight in planning. Ray Dalio of Bridgewater Capital has likewise used mindfulness not only as a tool for increasing productivity but also enhancing situational awareness as a strategist.

But it’s also possible to build mindfulness directly into planning exercises.

One of us recently had the opportunity to test the concept of mindful strategy with a group of middle managers and senior executives from the legal, advertising, finance, and non-profit sectors in the Bay Area. The experience gave us a clearer practical understanding of what works when it comes to integrating mindfulness practice into strategy retreats.

  1. Take mindful moments: One simple approach is to integrate straightforward mindfulness activities into meetings and retreats. By punctuating planning exercises with deliberate time for those present to simply connect with their breath and recognize unnecessary distractions, organizers can create the conditions for intuition to arise.  As Rasmus Hougaard and Jacqueline Carter explain, it’s possible to integrate simple practices of focus and awareness throughout a workday.
  2. Explore alternative scenarios: It’s also possible to inject an element of mindfulness without meditating at all. Scenario planning exercises, for example, open decision-makers to numerous, plausible alternative “stories of the future” that inherently challenge assumptions and mindsets. Corporations including Shell and governments including Singapore have used such practices—first and foremost for their heuristic value—with considerable success for decades. Much like meditation, the practice of nonjudgmentally assessing different plausible futures is a practical way of shining light on old unexamined thought patterns and making room for new ideas.
  3. Visualize positive outcomes: As Daniel Goleman argues, positivity is part and parcel of focused attention. “Pessimism narrows our focus,” he writes, “whereas positive emotions widen our attention and our receptiveness to the new and unexpected.” Organizational leaders can benefit from imagining organizational “end-states” during strategy sessions. This can be as simple as posing a variant of the question Goleman suggests—“if everything works out perfectly for our organization, what would we be doing in ten years?”—and taking time to contemplate.

Mindfulness practices like these can help leaders—and their organizations—identify which ideas and aspirations are important and which assumptions limit their growth. They’re useful not only for attaining enlightenment but also for making sense of a changing world.

This article was originally published on Harvard Business Review. Read the original article.

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Monday 22 July 2019

How to Decipher the Emotions Behind Your Child’s Behaviors

How Mindful Readers Chill Out

What unusual things do you do to relax? 
  • “Organizing my home and purging items I don’t need helps me when things feel chaotic. Also, sometimes just getting on the floor and letting my dogs shower me with attention is amazing!”
  • “I get up before 6am, light a candle, read the newspaper online, and have coffee: a peaceful hour to myself. Then I walk or work out or do yoga.”
  • “Catching crabs with my nephew. I watch him mindfully as he explores, and his innocent curiosity brings me quiet joy.”
  • “Facebook helps me relax. I’ve realized it’s because I have few “friends” there—the ones I have are people who mean something special to me.”
  • “My Lunchtime Walks. I take the same route each day, headphones in, walking to the beat of my carefully selected soundtrack.”
  • “I sort random things into categories that have no real purpose, other than aesthetics—things like state quarters; books I haven’t read yet; items picked up while traveling; pictures, downloads, and screenshots on my phone.”
  • “Dancing. It’s something I wasn’t allowed to do when I was growing up, and now I find that I enjoy it very much!”
What does your ideal self-care practice look like?

Nearly all respondents say taking time daily for mindfulness and exercise, stretching, and breathing practices would be indispensable.

Other possibilities: listening to music, turning off your phone, getting a massage, loving-kindness meditation, walking on the beach, and reading a book.

Slightly less common ideas? Horseback riding and playing backgammon.

Do you feel relaxed when meditating?

A sense of relaxation can be a nice side effect of meditating, but it’s not a requirement.

55% say they usually feel “chill” when they meditate.

For 39% meditation can be relaxing sometimes.

6% say meditation just isn’t a relaxing activity.

How relaxed are you most of the time?

You’re not alone if you go through most days feeling a little on edge: 58% of respondents do, too.

A mere 1% are totally chill more often than not.

28% say they’re pretty laid-back, and the rest (13%) report feeling like a bundle of nerves.

How does social media fit into your leisure time? 

Only 7% say using social media helps them to relax, while 26% say it creates an uptick in their tension.

The moderate 41% of respondents say they can chill out with social media, but only if they don’t use it too much—and 26% use it rarely or never at all.

How often do you take time to relax?

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Friday 19 July 2019

Desire: A Current of Homecoming


Desire is intrinsic to our aliveness, yet when we have unmet needs, it can possess us. This talk explores how to relax open the grip of wanting and heal the suffering of addiction. You will learn how to bring mindfulness and compassion to the roots of desire, and be carried home to open loving presence (a favorite from the archives).

For us addicts, recovery is more than just taking a pill or maybe getting a shot. Recovery is also about the spirit, about dealing with that hole in the soul.
~ William Moyers

You might also enjoy Tara’s online course, curated from this talk, plus several of her others: Freeing Ourselves with Mindfulness: Using mindfulness and meditation to heal harmful habits, attachments, and addictions. Register at any time. Link includes discounted price.

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Four Ways to Foster Gratitude in Children

Thursday 18 July 2019

Meditation: Vipassana – Opening Our Hearts to Life as It Is (20 min.)


This meditation awakens the senses with a mindful scanning of the body, establishes an anchor for presence, and invites us to arrive again and again, deepening the pathway home. When difficult or intense experience arises, the practice is to learn to open to what is here with a clear, allowing and kind attention (a favorite from the archives).

“…widen your heart and mind so you sense your hand is on the heart of the world. Sensing whatever prayer for the world most resonates at this moment and offering it…”

photo: Richard Berglund

 

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What Your Teen is Really Saying When They’re Angry

When the teenager in your life is angry at you, it may seem like the last thing they want to do is talk. But the truth is, your teen is sending you messages with their behavior—especially their most off-putting, anger-laden actions. The key is whether you are willing to respond to the real message behind their anger.

In addition to the general desire for your engaged attention, below is a list of what teens are generally very interested in. When these factors are (from the teen’s perspective) being “denied” them, particularly by you, anger can follow.

For most teens, anger wells up when they feel they’re not getting:

  • Respect: Your teen will flare up during interactions with you because they are assuming you think they don’t deserve this. They believe themselves to be more capable than you (in their perception) will ever admit.
  • Space: They want you to give them the physical and emotional room to try things out, explore, and basically have a go at life without your rules, reminders, and your identity. They want their own.
  • Validation: You know this better than anyone—teens experience things intensely. Their emotions are strong and often in flux. With all this intensity, and (believe it or not) because your perspective has a great deal of impact on them, they are looking for you to validate them. Or to use a less therapy-thick term, they want to know you understand and accept their feelings as real.
  • Provisions & Peers: And you’ve encountered this as well—they want stuff from you. They want access to fun and distraction, and so they want your money. But why? Primarily, so they can spend time with their peers. They want the acceptance and belongingness that only their peers can provide, and trips to the mall and to the ATM are the keys—and they want your car keys as well!

I’m sure none of these are a great surprise to you. Perhaps you remember the importance of each of these when you were your child’s age. Regardless, it’s not the mere knowledge of these that will make the difference. It’s your ability to communicate the reality of these meaningful factors to your teen that will largely determine what happens when their anger surfaces. It will do much to connect you to your child, and will also be a fuel for helping your teen improve their behavior and capacity for managing the demands of their daily life.

You can still set limits on their disrespect or lashing out, but you can also try acknowledging that you understand that something real (for them) is driving how they feel.

The key is to pause, take a breath, and connect with what’s truly behind your child’s angry actions. You can still set limits on their disrespect or lashing out, but you can also try acknowledging that you understand that something real (for them) is driving how they feel.

Try This: Pause Before You Respond

Consider a recent stuck communication with your teen—one that seemed to have hit a dead-end. Maybe it’s their refusal to get a summer job, or your annoyance at them regularly skipping class.

Then finish the following sentence: “When it comes to addressing this situation I . . .”

If you finished the sentence with anything like “have thrown up my hands” or “have tried everything and don’t have a clue what to try next” or “think it’s really my kid’s fault,” then try to sit with your eyes closed for a moment. Visualize your teen’s appearance and behavior during that angry / communication deadlock situation.

Try on the following statements as questions to ask, as opposed to your standard rigid mental chatter:

  • What am I willing to give to my teen right now so that they see how much I want to help us out of this situation?”
  • “Whatever I do in the next moment, what’s more important: venting and reacting, or doing and saying what matters most?”
  • “What am I willing to authentically say about what seems to be behind their upset? Am I willing to respond (or “RSVP”) to what’s real for for them in order for them to be more likely to hear what’s important on my end? 

In your mind’s eye, imagine what might happen in the next moment of this particular communication breakdown with your teen if you acted from one of these internal questions? Would things be the same rigid and fixed “breakdown as usual,” or might there be some room for growth there?

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Wednesday 17 July 2019

Guided Meditation: Letting Go – 9 Magic Breaths


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Take a pause from all activity, and either sit or stand in a way that allows you to be comfortable yet alert. It’s ideal, if possible, to gently close your eyes.

With each of the following conscious breaths, inhale fully, extending your natural in-breath so your lungs are filled with air. Exhale very slowly, so that you can feel the actual sensation of releasing the breath and letting go.

With the first set of three breaths, as you exhale, imagine letting go of all thoughts. You might picture thoughts as clouds, appearing and then passing out of sight, leaving a wide open sky.

With the second set of three breaths, as you exhale, imagine letting go of all physical tension. In areas of tightness, you might sense a softening and then dissolving, as if ice is melting to water. (Alternately, “…you might sense dense dark clouds thinning and then breaking apart, revealing a bright, clear sky.”)

With the third set of three breaths, as you exhale, imagining letting go of all that burdens your heart. You might sense a loosening and releasing, as if water is disappearing into vapor. (Alternately, “…you might sense a heavy fog lifting, allowing the warmth and light of sun to fill your being.”

Then allow the breath to resume its natural rhythm, and sense the possibility of simply relaxing open with the in-breath – like a gently expanding balloon – and letting go with the out-breath, relaxing and settling into greater and greater ease and well-being. Continue as long as you’d like, and when you’re ready, explore re-entering activity with a relaxed and open attention.

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Nine Ways Mindfulness Reduces Stress

Monday 15 July 2019

Can Mindfulness Save Democracy?

“We are a country divided.” That’s what the pundits and political observers would like us to believe. 

For the last few decades, political scientists have documented this shift toward greater polarization. And yet, until just recently, the polarization of democratic politics was viewed as a mostly elite phenomenon. Morris Fiorina makes the case in Culture War: The Myth of A Polarized America, that polarization is a mostly elite phenomenon. Pundits, politicians, and partisans are the ones who are polarized and at war, not ordinary citizens.

This elite theory of polarization no longer seems to be true. In a recent Pew Survey, researchers found a dramatic increase among non-political elites in the experience of stress and frustration when talking about politics. A record 53% of Americans now report talking about political issues as generally stressful and frustrating. Moreover, polling research by Pew also shows a marked increase in ideological division among ordinary citizens.

It’s easy to blame this escalation on a polarizing figures on both side of the aisle or the rise of popular information spaces like Facebook and Twitter. But from the perspective of mindfulness practice, it’s more helpful to look deeper into what holds this pattern of outrage, fear, and resentment in place: our personal unchecked reactions.

The Mirror of Complementary Behavior

At its core, of this shift toward political outrage and polarization is a clear pattern of response and counter-response. This is a common behavioral pattern that psychologists call “complementary behavior”: the natural human tendency to mirror the emotions of those around us. When we’re in the presence of someone else’s anger, we feel angry. When we’re in the presence of fear, we feel afraid. And so on.

The complementary behavior hypothesis suggests that the escalation of aggression works like a feedback loop: party A feels outraged at party B. So party B begins to feel outraged toward party A, which in turn generates greater outrage among party A. And on and on it goes.

Our challenge, of course, is that human beings are hard-wired to mirror the responses of others. Put differently, our tendency to respond to outrage with outrage is a deeply ingrained habit of mind. Without intentionally strengthening your awareness, it’s almost impossible to interrupt.

The Transformative Power of Mindfulness

Enter mindfulness. At its core, mindfulness techniques strengthen our ability to see our habitual behaviors with greater clarity and to choose our reactions with care and wisdom.

Without building up our capacity for mindful awareness, anger expressed by someone about your beliefs (political or otherwise) results in a spontaneous reaction of anger and resentment. There’s no gap between stimulus and response. The anger and irritation we experience outside of ourselves – through the news, on social media, or even in our communities –  can translate into an angry outburst in a flash.

By bringing awareness to our spontaneous reactions, and practicing non-judgemental curiosity about them, we begin to create the space we need to choose how we react.

Introduce a little mindfulness, however, and the whole pattern begins to change radically. By bringing awareness to our spontaneous reactions, and practicing non-judgemental curiosity about them, we begin to create the space we need to choose how we react.  When we apply this space to our news consumption and political interactions, we introduce a small, but significant gap between stimulus and response.

Of course, mindfulness isn’t just about training a cold sense of heightened awareness. It’s also about infusing our reactions with greater compassion.  We are human beings, after all, each of experiencing some degree of struggle as we do our best in life. On a profound level, mindfulness helps us cultivate this sense of empathy, connectedness to others, and love.   

When you add love to greater awareness, you end up in a radically different place than your normal route of habit. Instead of feeling outrage and saying things you wish you hadn’t said when someone launches into a political diatribe, mindfulness opens the door to what psychologists call “non-complementary behavior.”  This is what happens when we break the ordinary habit of mirroring the other person’s emotional state.

Using awareness, we gain the superpower to interrupt this habit by noticing that it is happening.  Then, using compassion, we override our default neural biology of responding to outrage and anger in kind by responding with a transformation response of kindness and love.  This transformation has the power to change the world. It changes both our experience and the experience of those around us. 

A Mindful Democracy 

Martin Luther King’s teachings on non-violent communication and “love in action” were based on this principle of non-complementary behavior. He also warned of the dangers of failing to recognize the importance of love and empathy in building resilient communities: “Have we not come to such an impasse in the modern world that we must love our enemies – or else? The chain reaction of evil – hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars – must be broken, or else we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of annihilation.

Citizens in democracies throughout the world now find themselves brewing in dangerous waters of division and radicalization. If we allow ourselves to succumb to our base instincts of unchecked reactions, we will almost inevitably fall into the trap of “hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars.”

And this escalation has real political consequences. Political scientists point out that when polarization and division become too extreme, citizens become more likely to choose their party over the basic values of democracy. We become more interested in being Republicans or Democrats than being citizens of a democratic republic. We willingly sacrifice our freedom for political victories and divide ourselves willingly into “us and them”.

Mindfulness is perhaps the most powerful technology we have for interrupting the cycle of outrage, hatred, and even violence. Mindful citizens have the power to shift the political climate and re-introduce the core democratic values of mutual respect and compassion into our national discourse.

And that might just save democracy.

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The Science of Chronic Stress, Inflammation, and Mindfulness

Inflammation. Since the early 1990s, when researchers began connecting the dots between a plethora of chronic illnesses and a previously unrecognized form of inflammation—properly called “metainflammation”—it’s been identified as a glaring health concern, a subcategory of wellness unto itself, about which headlines are made and books are written. 

Since then, doctors and healers of all stripes have advised countless (often questionable) treatments to fight inflammation, from diet changes and exercise to drugs, herbs, and supplements. Clearly inflammation is a battle we have yet to win.

Yet in this still-new terrain, researchers have also sussed out a possible common denominator in this complex condition: stress. 

And meditation is showing promise as an accessible and effective way to combat it.

Why We Get Inflamed

To understand why meditation may work against metainflammation, it helps to understand exactly what inflammation is, and what effects it can have on our health. 

First, there’s more than one kind of inflammation. Acute inflammation is triggered when you’re wounded or battling an infection. One of the body’s most elegantly engineered processes, your blood vessels constrict to stop bleeding. Then swarms of inflammation-promoting cells, starting with neutrophils, flood the injured area. (You may notice redness and swelling at the wound site during this process.) These trigger scab formation and skin healing, and help form new blood vessels, until it’s almost like the whole thing never happened. The inflammation naturally ebbs away once healing is completed.

If acute inflammation is like a raging fire that burns in place until an infection is obliterated, metainflammation is like having embers burning deep within your body. You may never notice the smoldering until it erupts as chronic illness, notes Garry Egger, PhD, Director of the Center for Health Promotion and Research.

Instead, this low-grade, chronic, and systemic inflammation quietly spreads, affecting arteries and certain organs and causing allostasis, a disruption of their normal processes. Allostasis is present in many, if not most, forms of chronic disease. “We can’t say it ‘causes’ such disease, but it is highly correlated,” Dr. Egger says.

A Chronic Connection  

The triggers of metainflammation are like a huge crazy quilt that reflects the costs of living in a modern, industrialized society: processed, packaged, and fast foods; inactive lifestyle; obesity; not enough fruits and vegetables; too little sleep; pollution; chemicals that disrupt our endocrine system (and promote obesity); and social issues, including inequality and economic insecurity.  These familiar life conditions all cause physical and psychological stress, which in turn can ignite the slow burn of metainflammation deep within the body.  

But as with many physiological processes, how metainflammation leads to disease isn’t cut-and-dried. Instead, research suggests it’s a response your immune system mounts to a variety of triggers, which over time leads to the development of various chronic conditions.

Reversing widespread inflammation doesn’t happen overnight, but a good start is reducing the physical and psychological stressors that can be triggering the reaction.

In other words, how people develop chronic diseases related to inflammation is complicated, says Leonard H. Calabrese, DO, Professor of Medicine, Cleveland Clinic Lerner College of Medicine at the Cleveland Clinic in Ohio.

Metainflammation can interfere with immune system regulation, says Dr. Calabrese. People’s immune systems react differently to this dysregulation—depending on myriad factors, from your genetic history to environmental or lifestyle factors—and they may respond with inflammatory diseases such as rheumatoid arthritis, Crohn’s disease, or psoriasis, to name just a few.

In fact, some 70% of all diseases, including diabetes, arthritis, asthma, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, heart disease, irritable bowel syndrome, depression, chronic anxiety, and even some forms of cancer may have an inflammatory trigger.

Putting Out the Fire

Reversing widespread inflammation doesn’t happen overnight, but a good start is reducing the physical and psychological stressors that can be triggering the reaction. Along with a diet rich in plant-based foods and exercise, mindfulness meditation is a noted help. 

“I think the evidence is strong that mindfulness—especially the more you practice—‘downregulates’ inflammatory genes,” says Dr. Calabrese. Simply put, that means that a consistent mindfulness practice can “turn off” the process by which genes trigger inflammation.

In a UCLA/Carnegie Mellon study conducted in 2012, a course of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) reduced C-reactive protein (a significant marker for inflammation). The researchers concluded that MBSR could be an effective treatment for blunting pro-inflammatory gene expression in older adults.

It seems to target neurogenic inflammation—which is caused by inflammatory mediators released from sensory nerve endings, and is a key factor in chronic inflammatory diseases, says Melissa Rosenkranz, PhD, associate scientist, Center for Healthy Minds, University of Wisconsin–Madison.

In addition to decreasing inflammation, meditation may be a key in keeping it from developing in the first place. 

When you’re under psychological stress, your nerve endings release substance P, a chemical “messenger” that acts on immune and other cells to create inflammation, notes Dr. Rosenkranz in her study.

Mindfulness (and potentially other meditation practices) combats this type of inflammation by helping to “train the mind to not get caught up in the story that we construct about the events of our lives,” says Dr. Rosenkranz. In other words, it’s reducing our reactivity to stressful events that lessens inflammation. 

Preventive medicine

In addition to decreasing inflammation, meditation may be a key in keeping it from developing in the first place. 

Suppose you inherit a set of genes from your parents that could predispose you to developing type 2 diabetes, for example. It’s not a forgone conclusion that you’ll automatically become diabetic at some point in your life, because gene expression—whether those genes will activate to trigger diabetes—is affected by the food you eat, your stress levels, the amount of exercise you get, and many other environmental factors, says Parneet Pal, MBBS, MS, Chief Science Officer at Wisdom Labs in San Francisco. 

Recently, Dr. Pal led a small pilot study to track the effects of a 12-week mindfulness program in the workplace. 

Before and after her study, Dr. Pal’s research team measured the changes in the participants’ gene expression on a set of 53 genes related to inflammation and immunity. These particular genes trigger inflammation and lower immunity when the body is under stress.

After 12 weeks of a regular mindfulness practice, Dr. Pal said that among the participants, “there was a significantly lower expression of inflammatory genes and a greater expression of genes boosting immunity. Beyond that, participants also experienced improved levels of social well-being—they felt better,” noted Dr. Pal.

“The practice of mindfulness,” adds Dr. Rosenkranz, “is about changing your relationship to life’s slings and arrows—not about keeping them at bay. A reduction in inflammation, as a consequence of mindfulness practice, is a fortunate side effect.” 

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Friday 12 July 2019

The Path of Spiritual Surrender: Part 1


Cultivating a surrendering presence allows us to release the identity of a small, separate self, and open to the truth and fullness of who we are. These two talks explore misunderstandings about surrender (such as the fear that we will become passive or condone injustice) and the practices that create the grounds for surrender, emotional healing, transformational activism and spiritual freedom.

…As we close, you might sense to yourself that this is a life practice of learning to live. Surrender the thoughts and surrender into the feelings… and surrender into that larger loving space. And you can feel from your own intuitive wisdom that remembering your belonging to something larger IS a pathway to peace and to freedom. And just knowing that will keep calling you home over and over. ~ Tara

Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.
~ Rumi

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Find Happiness by Embracing All of Your Emotions

Thursday 11 July 2019

Meditation: Befriending Your Inner Life (16:11 min.)


This meditation establishes a gentle and caring presence through bringing the image and felt sense of a smile to various domains in the body. We then settle with the breath, and practice relaxing with whatever arises, letting life be just as it is. The underlying intention is to regard all experience with a clear, interested and friendly attention. The gift is a homecoming to our naturally loving presence.

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The Science of How Mindfulness Relieves Post Traumatic Stress

Pain, loss and traumatic events are part of the human experience, yet most of us don’t talk about that part of our lives. According to a Health Care Policy report from Harvard Medical School, approximately 60% of North Americans experience at least one traumatic event in their lifetime. Some of these individuals may go on to develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), a condition marked by intense, disturbing thoughts and feelings related to a traumatic experience that last long after the traumatic event has ended. A recent review of the research finds that mindfulness-based programs such as Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction (MBSR) may provide relief from post-traumatic symptoms such as anxiety, sleep disturbance, and difficulty concentrating.

Understanding Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Post-traumatic stress and PTSD may occur after experiencing or witnessing a shocking or dangerous event. During the event, fear triggers a cascade of hormones like cortisol and adrenaline that flood the nervous system and mobilize the body’s defenses. Once the threat subsides, the nervous system usually “resets,” initiating the healing and recovery process. 

In some cases, or when stress is chronic, the system does not reset, and the physical and psychological effects of acute or prolonged stress manifest as symptoms of traumatic stress. Not everyone who survives a trauma develops PTSD, and not everyone with PTSD has experienced or observed a life-threatening event. Sudden, unexpected death or loss, or persistent environmental threat can also lead to a person developing post-traumatic stress symptoms. 

It is important to note that post-traumatic stress symptoms are not, in and of themselves, pathological. They represent the mind and body’s natural process of recovery following severe, often painful life experiences. Often more chronic and extremely traumatic events require longer periods of healing and repair.

As resilience builds, symptoms often lessen and eventually subside altogether. For some, however, post-traumatic symptoms can be accompanied by significant depression, anxiety, panic, and thoughts of suicide. In these cases, evidence-based treatment approaches under the care of a medical professional may be necessary to help alleviate the impacts of trauma. 

The Symptoms of PTSD

Although there are many causes of trauma, people with PTSD have a great deal in common. According to non-profit Anxiety and Depression Association of America, PTSD is characterized by three primary symptoms: 

  1. Repeating or reimagining the experience — Most have intrusive memories or bad dreams that occur in combination with physical symptoms like a racing heart and shortness of breath. 
  2. Avoidance— Individuals also tend to avoid objects, places, or events that trigger recollection of the initial experience, and learn to numb physical and emotional sensations when under duress. 
  3. Hyperactivity — The combination of unresolved nervous system hyperactivity and emotional distress can result in tension, anger, irritability, a tendency to startle easily, or difficulties coping with life events. This is often accompanied by difficulties sleeping, eating, and concentrating, and a tendency toward sadness, depression, social isolation, guilt, and a lack of trust in others and the world. 

How Traumatic Stress Affects the Brain

Acute and persistent traumas are also known to impact the structure and function of the brain and nervous system. Human and animal studies find that traumatic stress is associated with decreased volume in the hippocampus, anterior cingulate cortex, and left amygdala; brain regions that are highly sensitive to environmental threat. 

The hippocampus, part of the brain’s emotion processing center (limbic system), plays an important role in learning, memory, and emotion processing. It is particularly vulnerable to stress, and tends to be smaller in volume in those with PTSD.

The anterior cingulate links the limbic system to the prefrontal cortex—often referred to as the brain’s “thinking center.” It plays an important role in emotional regulation and cognitive flexibility. 

All told, these brain signaling anomalies may be related to greater difficulty regulating and coping with negative thoughts, feelings, and memories — a hallmark of post-traumatic stress.

The amygdala, another hub for cognitive and emotional processing, has also been found to be smaller in those with a history of trauma, although there doesn’t appear to be a connection between the size of the amygdala and the severity of PTSD symptoms. Researchers do believe that decreased regulation of the amygdala may be associated with an increased risk of developing post-traumatic symptoms or a diagnosis of PTSD. 

All told, these brain signaling anomalies may be related to greater difficulty regulating and coping with negative thoughts, feelings, and memories — a hallmark of post-traumatic stress.

Despite these commonalities, traumatic stress is not inevitable. For some, social support such as friends, family, or a support group, a positive mindset, and a nervous system that is able to reset after a highly stressful event can reduce the odds of developing PTSD. For those with repeated exposure to extreme stressors, a history of adverse childhood events, a lack of social support, a history of psychological problems, or prolonged or chronic environmental threat, treatment is often a viable option to move from trauma to wellbeing. 

The Impact of Mindfulness-Based Treatment on PTSD

Historically, cognitive forms of psychotherapy with or without medication was the first line of treatment for PTSD. But many with PTSD avoid therapy due to social stigma, cost, guilt, shame, or an inability to seek help. In response to the need for alternative forms of treatment, more providers and trauma sufferers are turning to mindfulness-based interventions.

There is some debate among professionals as to whether mindfulness-based interventions for PTSD are effective. Some suggest that an increase in mindfulness may help individuals to better cope with intrusive thoughts and memories, and be more equipped to handle emotional distress. Correlational studies, which examine the relationship between two or more factors, show that higher levels of dispositional mindfulness are associated with fewer concurrent PTSD symptoms in survivors of natural disasters, victims of sexual abuse or assault, and firefighters.

Others suggest that mindfulness-based practices like meditation may cause considerable distress for some practitioners. For example, in a study of 60, adult meditators (43% female) and 32 meditation experts (25% female), 88% of participants reported “challenging or difficult meditation experiences [that] bled over into daily life…” that ranged from a few days to more than 10 years.

We have yet to understand what types of practices may, or may not exacerbate symptoms in those with a history of traumatic exposure. In addition, there are a number of well-researched conventional approaches such as cognitive therapy, eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR), and medications shown to reduce PTSD symptoms. There is some skepticism as to whether mindfulness alternatives are appropriate first-line therapies for PTSD. 

Do Mindfulness-Based Therapies Reduce Trauma Symptoms?

A meta-analysis of 18 studies compared the effects of mindfulness-based interventions to those of a randomized control group in reducing the psychological symptoms of traumatic stress and PTSD. This study included data on 1,219 participants. Researchers found that individuals who participated in the mindfulness-based interventions demonstrated significantly lower levels of PTSD symptoms following treatment than various control group members.

They also found that the longer the mindfulness intervention, the greater the reduction in traumatic stress symptoms. Additionally, individuals who received mindfulness-based interventions reported higher levels of mindfulness at the end of treatment compared to control group members.

Researchers found that individuals who participated in the mindfulness-based interventions demonstrated significantly lower levels of PTSD symptoms following treatment than various control group members.

The review also uncovered some important caveats. Among them was the discovery that increased mindfulness following an intervention was not linked to fewer PTSD symptoms after treatment. Although this finding may have been the result of methodological problems in the research, it appears that becoming more mindful does not necessarily translate to experiencing less traumatic stress. 

The severity of PTSD symptoms at the onset of an intervention was also not related to changes in mindfulness or a reduction of symptoms following treatment. Those with and without a PTSD diagnosis responded similarly to mindfulness-based therapies.

Finally, although researchers anticipated that trauma-specific mindfulness-based interventions would outperform traditional programs like mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR), results from these programs have been found to be comparable, suggesting that mindfulness training on its own may be impactful.

Although these findings are encouraging, the review’s authors note of a potential source of bias known as the file drawer problem: the possible over-inflation of positive results that may occur when only studies with positive or significant statistical effects are published. It is important to not overlook the possibility that studies with negative outcomes are underreported or tossed out altogether.

Indeed, in recent years, contemplative scientists have called into question whether the negative or harmful effects of meditation have been suppressed in the research literature. This is of particular importance when considering the use of mindfulness-based therapies with those with a trauma history, for whom meditation and contemplation may exacerbate an already unstable nervous system. This thorny dilemma will require additional, high-quality studies to be resolved.

How Mindfulness-Based Therapies May Change Brain Structure

Brain imaging studies provide another promising research avenue that may inform our understanding of how mindfulness-based therapies aid in trauma recovery. In one study, 23 male Iraq and Afghanistan combat veterans were randomly assigned to either a Mindfulness-Based Exposure Therapy (MBET) group, which combines mindfulness with traditional exposure therapy, or a present-centered group therapy (PCGT), which encourages acceptance of thoughts and emotions as they occur in the present moment.

Functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) brain scans performed before and after treatment showed that those receiving MBET had significantly more connections between the default mode network (DMN), which is associated with mind wandering and rumination, and the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex (DLPFC) and anterior cingulate cortex (ACC).

This implies that mindfulness training may enable those experiencing post-traumatic stress to be better able to inhibit or reduce the pernicious cycle of negative thoughts, feelings, and memories that accompany traumatic stress. MBET group participants also had fewer symptoms of post-traumatic stress, however their symptom reduction was not significantly different from those in the PCGT group.

Findings from this study of veterans with PTSD parallel those conducted with adults without PTSD in which meditation has been found to benefit physical and mental health and change the structure and function of the DMN, amygdala, and hippocampus, affecting our impulses and decision-making.

Although many questions remain unanswered, including whether or not these brain changes translate to greater health, happiness, and well-being, they suggest that mindfulness may be beneficial for healing from adversity.


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Tuesday 9 July 2019

The Six Rules of Conscious Emailing

Have you ever sent an email and immediately wanted to take it back? Who hasn’t! We can churn out emails at such lightening speed, it’s easy to write something that accidentally offends someone or is easily misunderstood. Emailing feels almost like a conversation, but we lack the emotional signs and social cues of face-to-face or phone interactions. If there’s any challenging content to convey—and if you’re sending it out to more than one person—it’s easy for problems to arise.

Here’s how you can communicate more thoughtfully and effectively via email.

Four Mindful Tips to Email More Clearly

  1. Keep it short and sweet. Using fewer words usually leads to more clarity and greater impact. Your message can easily get lost in the clutter, so keep it simple.
  2. Ask yourself—should I say this in person? Some messages are just too touchy, nuanced, or complex to handle by email. You may have to deliver the message in person, where you can read cues and have some give and take. Then, you can follow up with a message that reiterates whatever came out of the conversation.
  3. Notice your tone. If there’s emotional content, pay close attention to how the shaping of the words can create a tone. If you have bursts of short sentences, for example, it can sound like you’re being brusque and angry.
  4. Consider your role. If there’s a power dynamic (for example, you are writing to somebody who works for you or who reports to you), you need to take into account how that affects the message. A suggestion coming from a superior in an email can easily sound like an order.

Try this Mindful Emailing Practice

  1. Begin by composing an email as usual. Try using the Enter key more. Shorter paragraphs are easier to read on screens.
  2. Then stop, and enjoy a long deep breath. Put your hands in front of you and wiggle your fingers to give them a little break. Now, lace your fingers together and place them behind your head. Lean back and give your neck a little rest. Now you’re in a good position for the next step.
  3. Think of the person, or people, who are going to receive the message. How are they reacting? How do you want them to react? Do they get what you’re saying? Should you simplify it some? Could they misunderstand you and become angry or offended, or think you’re being more positive than you intend when you’re trying to say no or offer honest feedback?
  4. Look the email over again and make some changes if necessary. Notice any spelling or grammar errors you may have missed the first time.
  5. Don’t send your email right away. If it’s not time-sensitive, leave it as a draft, compose some other messages or do something else, and then come back to it.
  6. Take one last look, and press send.
This article also appeared in the December 2015 issue of Mindful magazine

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Monday 8 July 2019

Being Empathic Doesn’t Make You a Pushover

Looking back at the financial collapse of 2008, I often wonder: How could investors have been so greedy? It seems as if they were so bent on “winning” that they made pretty dumb investments, which cost them—and the rest of us—dearly. In fact, history is filled with examples of people behaving aggressively for short-term gain, only to pay a long-term cost. Why do we keep behaving this way?

My question is at the heart of a new study by Carsten de Dreu and colleagues published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology. Their findings give us insight into the relationship between aggression, empathy, and decision making.

The Relationship Between Empathy and Decision-Making

In the study, participants played an investment game called “Predator-Prey Contest”—similar to the old board game Risk—which measures how much people will invest to win money off of others versus defending their own holdings. Participants were paired up with different players and given up to 10 euros to invest in each round—half the time playing the role of “attacker,” half the time acting as a “defender” (though these labels were not used in the experiment’s setup to avoid leading people one way or another).

Attackers won a round if they invested more money than a defender and kept whatever they and their defender hadn’t spent. So, for example, if an attacker invested 6 euros and the defender invested 5, the attacker “won” and ended up with 9 euros (the 4 they saved + the 5 the defender didn’t spend). However, if attackers invested the same amount or less than defenders, they lost what they’d invested. The researchers used how much people invested in either role as a measure of their aggressiveness.

The researchers wanted to understand what influenced aggressive investing and how that determined players’ winnings. In particular, they looked at whether being prosocial (other-oriented and empathic) toward others, in general, affected people’s aggression. They also considered whether deliberating longer or being stressed influenced investment choices.

“When you have higher levels of empathy and a more prosocial orientation, you are more cooperative and leave other people at peace.”

In initial analyses, the researchers observed that participants were generally less willing to invest in attacking another for gain than they were in defending their own earnings. This fit with longstanding economic theory around decision making.

“People are more motivated—they’re willing to invest more—to protect against loss than they are to increase wealth or prosperity,” says de Dreu.

They also found, unsurprisingly, that more prosocial people tended to attack others less aggressively for gain than people who were less prosocial—though they were just as fierce at defending against loss. This suggests that prosocial people might be less aggressive, but they aren’t pushovers, either.

“When you have higher levels of empathy and a more prosocial orientation, you are more cooperative and leave other people at peace, unless these people are a threat to you,” says de Dreu.

The Role of Empathy in Competition

In one experiment, de Dreu and colleagues measured the time it took to make the decisions in each role and how that related to aggression. In the second, they cognitively stressed people to see how that affected decision-making time and aggression—by, for example, having them look through a text and cross out the letter “e,” but only when the “e” was followed by a vowel or was a letter away from a vowel.

Through these manipulations, the researchers found that aggression works best in concert with some degree of thoughtfulness: Participants who took longer to make investment decisions in the attacker mode were more strategic. They won rounds without spending as much money—while participants who were cognitively stressed made poorer decisions. However, here the prosocial people had an advantage. They generally slowed down their decision making and so made better choices, resulting in more money for them at the end of the game.

“If we shorten the time people have to think, or demotivate them by making them tired, then they become more irrational,” says de Dreu. “The irony is that you can win a competition; but if you spend all of your money and effort on winning, you don’t have anything left in your pocket at the end of the day.”

De Dreu realizes these economic games are not “real life.” But, he insists, they can still give us insight into how people respond in real-world competitions, like in business or in war. We’ve all seen instances where people compete to the point where no one has anything left, he says—for example, “when you win the battle, but your army is so weakened that a small army on the other side could come in and eradicate you.”

It seems we can make better choices about investing our resources if we consider others and take more time to deliberate.

It seems we can make better choices about investing our resources if we consider others and take more time to deliberate…especially since we’ll still defend ourselves aggressively when that’s required.

“If we have this in the forefront of our minds, when we face these kinds of competitions, we’ll more quickly think, Maybe I should not engage in this much or at all,” he says.

In future studies, de Dreu hopes to understand why people are aggressive in the first place. After all, in the economics game, not investing any money in attacking another means you go home with your full 10 euros. “If you can be cooperative and not invest in attacking another person, why shouldn’t you?” says de Dreu. He speculates that reward centers in our brains may light up when we “win,” driving competitive impulses despite the costs. His next study will consider this question.

In the meantime, he says, embracing empathy and taking our time when making decisions could help us all to cut down on unnecessary aggression and still win out…at least economically speaking, if not in other avenues of life. “Empathy is a way to tone down the need to win and keep it in check,” says de Dreu.

This article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, one of Mindful’s partners. View the original article.

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